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writes:I'd been with my baby-daddy since I was 15 and at 19 my son came along. We always had a love hate relationship and I would leave and always came bad. Alittle over 2 years ago I got a new job and meant a guy there. Me and baby-daddy had a fight and I left and went to my sisters. This guy from work lived across the street.we had the same days off and worked the same shift. We spent a lot of time hanging out at work and I developed feelings for him. He told me he had a girlfriend but that he thought she was messing around on him and they probably wouldnt make it . We then started hanging out after work on days when I didn't have my son. He held me and listen when I talked and it felt like we connected. After awhile we had sex and I started to fall in love. He got engaged to his g/f and we continued our "thing"and then he got married and we still continued doing our "thing". 5 months ago I got pregnant. I had an abortion and told him I hate him and cut him off completely to the point at work he knows not even to look at me. Since then me and baby daddy has been working things out and the guys from work called me just the other day and told me he missed me and even said that we had a relationship even tho before he acted like I was nothing but a fb. And at the very least he wants to be friends and talk like we used to before we ever had sex.Should I let him be my friend ? I really loved him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2012): I'm sorry to hear about what you went through. I would say no don't let him in your life. If he really misses you and wants to be your friend he should of been a better person and man up to his mistake instead of making you go through all this and cheating on his wife. If he wants to be in your life there is a lot of talking he needs to do with both and a lot of explaining because he never manned up to his responsibility of having sex and getting you pregnant instead he continued his plans and got married.
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reader, tykeavenger24  +, writes (1 December 2012):
this is all down to whatyou think is right. do you want him to be your friend? do you want to hang out like before?
i think if you decide to be friends make sure you don't go back to having a "thing" as you will only get hurt because during that time of your "thing" he got engaged and married so be careful and try and move on relationship wise because you have your son to think about and can't aford to be messed about.
If he wants to go back to the way things are but with sex involved you should tell him if he wants that sort of relationship he should have to choose between you or his wife as its not fairon her either
hope i helped good luck
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