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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:right here goes, ive had a relationship with a none blood relative, to be honest he was my nephew for 7 years until my brother and his mum split up we are both in our thirties and should probably of known better, now the problem is ive got feelings for him i know its wrong but cant help it the thing is we need to remain friends were the family are and we all talk they are so pleased to be in contact again but im struggling to keep my composure, its tearing me apart, we promised that we would remain friendly but its not working out that way, he has something over me and is holding me all the time to this secret im terrified he will tell the family.Should I just come clean and suffer the consequences rather than wait for him to do it, we are all very close and if i dont talk to him they would ask questions of that i feel im in a no win situation here all for the sake of a quick fling, to be honest i think he knew exacactly what he was doing i had been on my own for 8 yrs due to a very bad experience he has a g/f and children and she turns a blind eye to him playing around or so he tells me, i have children too and he says all the time imagine what they would think he has me over a barrel here but he helped me realise hat there is a life to lead away from kids and stuff PLAYED ME MORE LIKE and i feel for it but i cant sleep am worried in case i get up the next day and he has told.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): I would stop worrying myself about it, anon. He hasn't told anyone yet, so he probably does not want to. I don't know the "big secret", but if he ever did tell anyone, all you do is say, yeah, it happened, but it was in the past. And I would let him know he was a dork for talking about it and forget his silly arse. If anyone thinks ill of you for it, tell them you are sorry, but it is their problem. I know how these things can be. You are "family", but not really. If he wants to cause a stink, it is his doing, not yours. I would work on your "feelings" for him. He is obviously spoken for, even if his wife seems to turn a blind eye. Don't be so sure. She may be very hurt by it, but does not talk about it.
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