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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey people i have been badly hurt from mostly all of my relationships and well now i'm wondering if i should just give up altogether or take a very very long break because i'm just to scared to let another man into my life. plus know i keep getting asked out people but i say no to them because i just cant take anymore heart brake and i know i wont be able to pick up the pieces anymore. this is painful because i don't think i will ever be able to trust men and i don't want to grow up hating them. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 If you're getting hurt, take a break. Boys and girls are different when your young in a boyfriend and girlfriend positions. Boys at your age haven't developed skills or relationship emotions. They date generally because it's the cool thing to do. Girls on the other hand have all ready begun developing "adult" forms of emotions in relationships. Now I know its not fair. If you take a break, work on building your sense of self. One reason people get hurt is not setting up, or allowing people to violate our boundaries. You need to set up how you choose to be treated and not let anyone to cross over them. You decide how to be treated, and demand others respect that.
Good luck with everything. Take care.
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reader, wenders +, writes (29 October 2007):
 consider your age13-15...
i would say take a really really long break.
until you are old enough...
you will then be meeting people serious about relationships.
at the moment all your past boyfriends probably see it more like a game.
its okay to gain a bit of experience before the age of 18..
when i was younger(not long ago)
i got dump by my first boyfriend.
i was feeling heart broken.
thinking "arrrr this is the end of the world!"
finally one of my friend got annoy of me crying.
and said"stop it!its not like you will be married to that guy!"
take it easy. but its still to early to be expecting anything serious for you now.
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