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writes:I have a very dear friend - a girl who I have known many years. I feel scared of getting intimate with her though I know she cares a lot for me. I also think I am attracted to men. I am in a dilemma. She has had one boyfriend in the past but it came to nothing and was over in few months. I know she has felt 'used' by that guy and is very averse to sex.Do I need to see a shrink to solve my dilemma? Any advice will be appreciated.thanks in anticipation Reply to this Question |
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reader, MT19  +, writes (11 November 2008):
I think the best thing for you to do would be to take some time to explore your own sexuality before you are intimate with anyone. You say she has been hurt before so she is not going to be happy about it happening again.
I suggest you are upfront and honest with her, tell her that you do care for her but that you are unsure about you sexuality and need time to explore and find out what is right for you. Take your time and remain friends with this women but do not do anything until you are sure what is right for you.
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reader, icelordess  + ♥, writes (11 November 2008):
 If she's already been hurt, and put off by sex, I don't think it would be a good idea to get intimately involved with you, since you seem to be undecided as to what sex you are attracted to. It seems like add that would do is add more to her confusion and pain. I think you would be best not to compound the situation.
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