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writes: I have been with my fiance for over five years. I found out that he had a one night stand and have forgiven him for it. However I don't trust him. He lies to me all the time. Mainly about stupid things, but it feels like I'm being an idiot forgiving someone who cheated on me then putting up with being lied to all the time. I really can't stand being lied to.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (18 October 2005):
You've admitted that you can't put up with it anymore, yes? Then break up with him! It's his loss really, you weren't the one cheating and lying to him.
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reader, emeraldeyz +, writes (18 October 2005):
I totally understand where you are coming from, i was in the same situation for 4 years. You should never let a guy make you feel bad and insecure about yourself. You proberbly will not realise it now but when you first went out with your boyfriend, you would of had trust n he would of made you feel special but because he decided to throw that away on his own mistakes you get the pain not him. Everyone knows a relationship is based on trust and you will never gain love and security again unless you rebuild the trust between you both. You need to know 100% yourself that he is not lieing anymore if you decide to stay with him, becuase if you don't you will learn to hate him and hate yourself. Just remember hes never going to stop the lies because he lives by them.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 October 2005):
 Once a cheater always a cheater, on top of that, he lies. Walk away and don't look back. There are men out there that can be faithful, you just need to find one. This guy is crap.
PS If Pops answers this and says it's YOUR fault, ignore him.
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reader, bee +, writes (18 October 2005):
honey, I am so sorry this has happened. You poor thing. OK so it's awful and now I think you have to pull yourself up my your own bootlaces (i.e. it's hard!) and face the real truth. This man has crossed a line - he has no respect for you anymore and you have lost respect for you too. NO relationship will be right in these conditions.
Please try to walk away with your head held high - the second you reclaim your self-respect, both you and others will see you for what you truly are - a valuable and worthwhile person.
Good luck - be strong inside.
p.s. He is doomed to unhappy relationshipss for as long as he lies and cheats - you don;t have to be. x
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