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writes:I've been with my boyfriend going on 4 years. When we met it hadn't even been a year since his wife passed. She was in a car accident. We were pretty self destructive back then, we grew up a lot. We helped each other and loved each other. We both admit we're like home for one another. Recently my boyfriend has said he needs space. He's not sure what he wants right now. It's been a couple of months, and he basically is still living like we're together. He says he doesn't know if we should be together if we can make it work (cause we do argue a lot about the same stuff), but he can't live without me. I don't know what to do. Should I continue to love him unconditionaly so he'll realize how great he has it. Or should I cut him off. Tell him to call when he wants me. I'm so lost.
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reader, Anniegeturgun  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 Give him some space. But tell him, there is no relationship that does not have its arguments. If it has been 4 years you have been together and almost a year after his wife passed, thats 5 years he could have decided to move on way before now, so just give him some space and time, but love him still. Thats what committment is about. I hope the best for you. Make sure you are patient with him, and keep the communication open.
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