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writes:Hi, I am currently 19 years old and so is my girlfriend. Recently I've been thinking a lot about our relationship and I can't come to any definite conclusion... I really care about her so I know i have a bias, so I need an outside opinion.We've been together for 4 months. Whenever we have a fight, she threatens to break up with me. A few weeks ago, I lied to her about being gone over the weekend because I thought we needed some time apart from each other (we had been seeing each other every day for hours) and she was psychologically distraught. She told me she had better see me tomorrow or we'll break up, then she emailed me saying that we can break up over this email so she "doesn't have to waste my time with you"So we talked and she broke up with me. I was a little weak, she is my first girlfriend and I didn't want to see her go. But i accepted it. She began sending me emails, the first one was saying to come meet her so we can put this in the past and "just be friends again" - consider this was only a few hours after we broke up. It made me really upset to see that. Then the next one she emails me saying that she "wishes I was there for her" and that she really "needs to talk to me." The next email she said that she "never really wanted to break up with me" - she said she had gone to the doctors and received bad news about her heart - that she was at the first stage of a heart attack. She said that something inside her told her to "break up with me" so she did. When she was breaking up with me, though, she said things like "im tired of u."i talked with her after ignoring her for a few days and she seemed pretty sorry. She said she really cared and loved me... but during the conversation she said i dont want you back as a boyfriend, that's for sure" at a point when i said that im still not over her yet.Now we are just friends, but i think she wants to get back together with me. I email her everyday and all, but I'm afraid she will hurt me again.She doesn't get out of the house too much with her friends, and she's a little introverted. She's a sweet girl but I'm not sure if she really cares about me or not. She waits for me everyday at 8 to talk to her after I go on my run, and she always responds to my emails telling me about her day and she always puts these little *hugs* at the end.If anyone has any advice or help or anything, please please respond. I've been in this situation for weeks. I always try to make her happy - i never say anything to hurt her. I try to make her laugh, be happy, tell her to go outside and get some sun. But now, my body is telling me its really afraid. I'm confused...
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reader, Hanox  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 in my eyes, she seems like a girl who can walk all-over and because you love her you may just take her back..
it's not a way a girl should act, end of the day if she loves you like i'm guessing you love her- then she should be with you through the hard times.
In my eyes-- It would be easier if you tell her to leave you alone now, because from what you have wrote, she will pick you up and drop you when it pleases her.
So just move on from, i know it's harder said than done but try and forget about her, dosn't belive the sweet talk and just move on.
have a good time and enjoy life.
Hope this helps.
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