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female
age
30-35,
*eely-h
writes:Dear cupid,in january i was talking to this boy on msn and he catches my freinds bus.he asked my freinds what i look like and one of my freinds on the bus told me that there were bad comments being said by my freinds.there was an argument about this before but it died down but my freind recently brought it back up again.and told some things i didnt know about it.i am really upset and hurt that my freinds would say mean things about me i would never say anything about there looks because i dont like that kinda thing.i do say things about people but i would never say anything mean like that. i know it was a while ago but should i confront my freind about calling me ugly or should i just forget about it?
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reader, love girl  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 once people talked about me behind my back i ignored it and forgot about it , even though everyone tld me to confront them , but i didnt
after a while i kept hearing that they are saying bad things and i got really upset and cofronted them in really bad way which made a big problem ,
its ok if you forget about it that's called forgiving which is a really great thing but if they hurt your feeling really bad you can tell them if you feel like it but tell them in a gentle way that doesnt lead to a big problem ,
just tell them that they hurt you and you wouldnt do that to them , and if they are really good friends they will realize that they hurt you and make it up to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Blame it on being spontaneous, being in the moment and wanting to laugh. They may not have meant it at all, but is a form of teasing. I know I had a few friends that would say stuff about me, I though they didn't like me, but realized that if that were true, I wouldn't have been in there circle of friends that talked and did things together.
No matter the age, we humans have a habit to tease one another, especially if someone says something that fits a line we've heard, especially the younger we are. Were so impressionable at a young age.
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