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writes:The man I have been dating for just over 2 months has hinted through his actions that he wants to end things. Since I knew what was coming I was prepared for it, and have also been feeling that it is time to end things. He has been unavailable without proper explanation for over a week, and then out of the blue wants me to meet him for coffee early afternoon. I respect that he want to do this properly in person.However, on the day we were supposed to meet I had to take my close friend to the emergency room, and had to cancel coffee.I told him I am alright with him calling me, since I had to cancel on short notice (less than an hour). He said that was alright, we can talk over the phone. The first time I asked if he was free to talk he said he had meetings, but would let me know as soon as they were done (that was mid afternoon). However, he didn't text, email, or call me. I sent him a text before I went to bed that night saying we could talk tomorrow (I went to be earlier than normal; it was a long day, emercency rooms are hard places for anyone to be, and no one likes to see their friends in pain).He still hasn't returned the text, emailed, called, or communicated in any other way.I am not sure whether to just let this go (I am not in the habit of chasing people down), or tell him to meet in person since at first he wanted to end things that way. I would have preferred to just end it rather than draw it out, even if it meant a phone call.I don't like to draw things out but I also believe in being honest and up front with people about things (I think it is a bit childish not to be). Should I just call him up and sort out the details, or just let this slide (it is disrespectful, but the writing is on the wall and I think I've moved on).
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 A break-up email? Who the hell does that? It's common courtesy to call or meet to end things. How ridiculous. But at least it's over, there's no more beating around the bush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRidiculous update to an equally ridiculous problem:
I called him prepared to end things in a fair way, or if he wasn't willing to do so by phone, meet him face to face.
But he would not answer my call. Then today sent me a silly "I don't want to do this by email, but what other choice have you left me" email.
Unpleasant, but it's pretty easy to know exactly how I feel about the whole thing right now.
Thanks for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Tennisstar 88,
Agreed. I'm just ending it by phone, whether he feels like answering or not.
Sageoldguy,
I think you misread my question. Basically I'm asking how much more effort I should put into contacting someone to end a short term relationships when he is being evasive, not trying to decide whether to stay with him or not.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 December 2010):
If you don't want one to prolong this, then why don't you break up with him yourself? The writing is on the wall, you've already moved on, all that's left is to tie up some loose end and break it off. Since timing seems to be an issue, just take the phone, give him a ring and do it yourself. No more loose ends, problem solved.
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