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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for the past 3 1/2 years -since i was 14 and he was 18. He has always been very sweet and loving, just the most perfect guy anyone could ask for. I feel like i'd be lucky to ever find anyone else like him. Yet a part of me feels like i've gotten too serious, too young. I've considered breaking up with him and almost did this week just because i'm frustrated with being tied down whilst many of my friends are carefree and single. He is considering going to America and travelling for a couple of years whilst i'm at Uni to 'discover himself' which i believe is very important for him so i don't want to hold him back and also feel i couldn't survive 2 years without him. I also cheated on him a few months back as me and my boyfriend were spending minimal time together, but we both understood what had gone wrong and fixed it. If he does go travelling i'm in no doubt that a similar situation will arise and i don't want to hurt him again.I love him so much and would love to eventually settle down with him, but it just feels so far away. I hate seeing this big countdown clock above our heads to the days he'll be leaving next summer to go travelling, and feel almost if i just broke it off now whilst i'm strong it wouldn't be as bad.So do i keep strong and stay by his side, even if not physically by his side for a couple of years, or do i accept that i'm just too young to hold on and just move along? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): Thanks for your replies, i really appreciate them and they just sort of back up my thoughts. I think for the time being i'm okay with just being happy with our relationship and i think i just need to ignore this clock above our heads as i think that's the main thing that is upsetting me.
I know that next summer is going to be incredibly hard for the both of us but it'll be impossible to stay together as a couple when we're thousands of miles apart. I know that i'll always beable to rely on him as a friend though and if we do stay in close contact then you never know - maybe we will meet up after doing our own things and live happily ever after, hehe!
I guess life just likes to remind us every now and then that love is never easy.
Thanks for replying =)
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reader, JCWil909  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 if it were me i would break up with them just until they were back then hook back up or if i had someone else at that time tell them to wait til' u break up
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): I get the feeling that you know things would not work out with him traveling for two years whilst you are at uni. You need to talk to him about how you truely feel about him going away for so long. Two years is a very long time to be appart from one another.
My boyfriend wanted to travel for one year starting this summer, for the same reason as yours, to "discover himself", he was also having family troubles. We had just managed to get through a very difficult place in our relationship and I knew that I was not comfortable with being seperated for so long, even though I wanted him to be happy and I knew that traveling would be good for him. I talked to him about it and explained that I was not comfortable with the situation and we managed to come to a sitation that we were both comfortable with.
Good Luck.
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