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writes:I've been in a 7 year off and on relationship. We have 3 children. He has cheated on me before, but since we got back together this last time he swears up and down that he wont cheat on me and that he had alot of time to think about things. We even got engaged. Should I believe him that he wont cheat on me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): The mans moral values are at question, and they come deep from your childhood upbringing. A cheater by nature is also a deciever a liar, it as to be that way for them to carry on their affairs. Its not a question of 'has he changed' its more a question of what he would do again if the same opportunity arose and he thought he wouldn't get caught. I believe he would cheat again.You have to realise what come out of his mouth is what he know on want you to hear.Good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Not all men are the same .
Just because of one swallow does not make a summer.
Just because your b/f cheated, you can say with authority that all men who cheat will cheat again.
That is a fallacy and a wrong assumption of all men.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (19 March 2008):
You can never trust anyone.
Even if another person you love , promised you that, you still cannot trust him.
No doubt, he has broken your trust once,
but is there any difference?
He is not a serial cheater, that means you should give him another chance.
7 years is enough to judge a man.
Someone who may not have cheated can also be a cheater.
You can only live in the present.
No one is perfect..
If you did wrong once, will you be condemned forever?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Never believe someone just because they say something is so. I remember one time this guy who molested me when I was middle-school age said, "You know, I'm not a child molester." YEAH, RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!If you are going to believe them, you need better reasons for believing them, then just because of what they said.
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reader, bebe010405 +, writes (19 March 2008):
Look I've been there exactly there and I really just want to tell you that it's so not worth it! I took the scum bag back cause i loved him we had been together 4 years had 2 little girls and what did he do after he swore he wouldnt do it again well he cheated with my sister so no please dont trust him a tiger cant change his stripes but he will hurt u again no matter what u do to keep him
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