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writes: I am 16 years old (I know my display age is wrong) and I have been with my bf for almost 2 years. I have always had security issues and problems with trust. Anyway, the other day I asked him if I could look through his MySpace just to ease my mind that nothing was going on. I did and found some stuff that made me very upset. It turns out that he had asked another girl out on the internet in the beginning stages of our relationship "in case we didn't work out". THis hurt me alot even though it was a long time ago.He had also kept in contact via internet with this girl and told her that she looked good recently. He also confided in another woman (also via internet) about our very personal information. Now I will be leaving for a portion of the summer and I am worried about something happening even though he deleted these people from his MySpace. He will be visiting his friends (females included) and be staying over. Should I be worried?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate your answers. You have been very helpful, but the problem is that he had feelings for one of these girls in the past and things have heppened with them (during our relationship) that crossed my personal boundaries (the girls he will be seeing).
I don't think he'll cheat on me, but I feel like one should cut ties with those you could be tempted to act with if you are in a committed relationship. I don't know.
Maybe I'm too possessive? Or maybe I just feel low about myself, I guess.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Your lack of trust and your security issues will always plague you until you correct them. You will drive this boyfriend and all your future boyfriends away. No relationship can survive for very long without trust. Plus you must be very tired from all the doubts and worries. While you are away why don't you read up on ways to improve your self-esteem? There are tons of books and websites dedicated to the subject. As a side note, I loved dating around at your age, made lots of friends and had lots of fun.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 This first girl that you talk about, it was a long time ago he asked her out if it was at the beginning of your relationship, also paying a compliments 95% of the time doesn't mean anything, its just a nice thing to do i guess, don't your male friends compliment you? Mine do lol but anyways... This girl that he confided in, personally i wouldn't worry about that, everyone needs someone to talk to about stuff what they cant say to their partner or need a second opinion on, just like your on here asking for help, if i was you i wouldn't worry about it, but thats just my opinion on things and i am quite the laid back person, but with the logical sense, lol. Hope thats some help to you, i tried answering as no one has and thats the best i could think of! All the best x
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