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writes:My boyfriends brother just passed away at age 49. My boyfriend has been spending a lot of time with the wife. sometimes as late as 1-2 in morning. Should I be worried? Reply to this Question
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reader, VenusFlowerBasket  +, writes (9 November 2012):
I am sorry to hear about your partners loss. I have to admit if I were you I would be worried. Two people who have lost someone very close to them are sharing this time together where they are both mourning and probably need the comfort of someone close, I would be concerned they are getting that comfort from each other. Particularly if he is staying over there so late. How often is he there? Have you asked him why he is always so late home? Is he able to turn to you if he needs you? What was your relationship like prior to this? Need more details really.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 November 2012):
 If he just passed away like the funeral is yet to take place, there will be a lot of time spent in planning and the legal stuff. If they have more time they will share their feelings and favourite memories of the brother. They both share a bond with a loved one so they could easily relate to each other. However, based on your previous question about him getting drunk and flirting with women, it doesn't make any sense that the two are happening at the same time. I would worry more about his drinking than him having anything to do with a mourning wife and sister in law. He could be looking for an escape by getting drunk but that doesn't mean you have to accept it. I look grabbing a woman's breast as cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): That's not really much to go on, but I would say you probably have nothing to worry about. Were you concerned that they may have been having an affair before his brother passed away?
She's grieving the loss of her husband. I doubt she is going to be climbing into bed with another man. Come to think of it, they're BOTH grieving, and are most likely helping each other through it....platonically.
You should be standing by your man during this time. Not suspecting him of cheating with his recently widowed sister-in-law. No offence.
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