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writes:Ok so I've been dating (not bf/gf just dating) for 7 months now (yeah..i know) and everything is good..we normally spend Fridays together hang out, movies, bowling..whatever! Recently like within the past 2 weeks he's been acting a bit different especially when it comes to me and him hanging out. Normally he asks me to go out on Friday..so 2 weeks ago he didn't ask and it was nearing to Friday and I decided to ask him out he told me that he was going to hang out with his friend, which is fine. Turns out that night his friend got sick and he was stuck home all night..texting me. Whatever things happen! So last week once again it was nearing till Friday and I decided to ask again and dropping hints about Friday..he told me he felt like being alone because of a lot on his mind. Now it's Wednesday and I want to know if you think I should ask again or wait it out and see if he does? I really don't want to seem too needy, but at the same time I don't want him to lose interest because I'm not asking..Confused!! Idk..I'm just tired of initiating things with him.What do you think?Thanks! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Honestly, this doesn’t sound good. If you have been dating for 7 months, and he still doesn’t consider you his girlfriend… I would highly suggest that you move on.
Also, the fact that he has blown you off two Fridays in a row… tells me he may have met someone else or is no longer interested in you… and he doesn’t have the nerve to tell you. The first time he blew you off for his friend… why didn’t he ask you out when he discovered his friend was sick? The second time he blew you off, are you 100% positive he did not go out that night?
You have extended the last 2 invitations to go out on Friday… the ball is now in his court. If he doesn’t ask you out this Friday, you have every right to ask him if he has lost interest, or has met someone else. Apparently, you two had a Friday night ritual of hanging out… and that has suddenly ceased for a reason.
I do hope things work out for the two of you. Keep us updated!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 November 2010):
 One thing I notice, is you guys have been in "dating" mode for 7 months..meaning you're not boyfriend/girlfriend, not obligated to each other..So it's possible he could be seeing other girls. Also, that tells me because you two haven't made it official then he's keeping his potions open. If a guy is interested then he will pursue you, he will put forth the effort. I see you putting forth a lot of effort, and him making excuses. He didn't have to be stuck home all night when his friend was ill, instead of texting you he could have spent time with you. Then the next Friday, he wants to stay home because he has a lot on their mind. I'm sorry but if he's the same age range as you, no one stays home on a Friday night, they're at that age of where they always have to be on the go. In my opinion he's tugging your chain, I wouldn't ask him out for this Friday. Let him ask you, that way if he doesn't then you have a definite answer instead of constantly being blown off.
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