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writes:Hi everyone,I'm the girl that was writing about the bf's friend sending him a porn link and some cheating related issues. Well finally, I guess it's no surprise to many but my bf has said that he wants a break. It seems as if this is coming out of nowhere because his actions show different behaviour. He has stated that he loves me, he missed me while I was away for the holidays and we had a really nice New Years eve together. Ever since I arrived from my holiday however, we haven't really seemed to understand each other and often get in arguments, small and stupid ones really. So then we start planning a trip away together which made me really hopeful. Then the next day he gets up and says, oh well weather sucks, it's too late so we can't go. I was pretty disappointed and told him that. He exploded, told me I'm a child and left. At that point, he told me he doesn't want to deal with this anymore and wants to have a break. I don't know whether to accept that (because I've been through one before and it ended the relationship) or just end it right now. I love him, so it's really really hard to go through this. I really don't understand his change in behaviour. When he said he was happy the past month, he told me that it was a lie and he was feeling really bad about us.What do people suggest?
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reader, Hillary30 +, writes (9 January 2011):
Hillary30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Prostudent2010,Thank you for your feedback. You made some good points, and if it were true and I saw him watching porn or I saw him talking to this girl friend of his online, then I would definitely feel that there is something wrong. But since it was just that one time that she sent it to him, and seeing as I live and work with him, I'm going to have to say that I'm going to give him another chance. That's not to say that I'm not going to keep my eye out and watch for 'out of the ordinary' behaviour, but I will try to make it work. There are good guys out there, despite what many people say. If he claims that he's happy with me despite all the problems that we've had, then hopefully he will not stray, right? :-)
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