| A
male
,
*arnzy
writes: This is urgent people.Me and my new girffriend have recently had unprotected sex. She feels shes pregnant but i dont know what to say to her when she says what do you want? to me.Well i reply its her decision ultimatly because she will be affected the most. But she wont tell me what she wants. When i ask or move to the subject she distances hersolf from me.Furthermore i am also puzzedled on what i want. I am 18 but having a child would not affect my life. Also i wud support her fully. Furthermore nobody stereotype me straight away. before this little incident i felt i was a sensible and a secure person. All my freinds would rate me the most unlikly person to fall into this situation. So please give me genuine help. I would feel honoured if she wants me to be the father of her child but i would also understand that she wouldnt want the baby.What should i do?
View related questions:
unprotected sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Hopeful +, writes (3 April 2006):
 When you say "she feels she's pregant" - are you sure she is actually pregant or is it just a hunch. Has she taken a test or been to the doctor?
If not, the first thing I would do is get her down to a doctor and have a chat with him and see if she really is pregnant.
You may be putting yourself through all this stress for nothing.
It is common for girls to think they may be pregnant and start stressing and then discover they are not. They were just late or something.
When she asks you, I think you need to say that first of all, you need to find it if she is. If she is isn't, let this serve a very valuable lesson about the virtues of safe sex. If she is ,you need to sit down and talk it out. The pros, the cons, issues concerning finances, home, parents reaction etc etc and come to a decision together.
This is not her problem. It is not your problem. It is a problem for both of you and together you need to resolve it.
If she is, I think it is imporant that parents and family are told to assist in this decision. Being so young, their support will be vital.
We can't tell you if you should say you want the baby or not, nor preach to you about abortion. You need to look at your own life and her life and talk about the issues and make a decision about your life.
|
