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writes: i have NO idea what to make of this girl. i can't read her. we've hooked up before but decided it was a bad idea to do it again because the timing wasn't right. she was in a relationship. anyway, now she's talking to me about how her relationship is going down the tubes and how she views her partner just mainly as a friend, and that she's not in love with him anymore. and also, she said she's been having a hard time dealing with the future because her boyfriend is out of college and settled down with a career, and she's graduating come december and wants to go to grad school out of state. and since he can't up and move with her because of his career, she doesn't really see a future with him. but she's been asking me to go with her. she said she can't imagine being away from me and since i don't have any career plans, i'm up for just about anything. so i could go if i wanted to. but i'm just confused about what she wants from me. we've been spending a lot of time together, and i know there's chemistry there. we've talked about it before, and i know there was feelings behind our hookup. what do you think is going on here? is she interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, seenitdoneit +, writes (15 August 2006):
Ask her. Second-guessing never works. She may be seeing you as a close friend she can open up to, or she may be dropping hints. You will never know until you ask.
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reader, camille  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Make sure you find out from this girl exactly what the score is, as if you follow her and she still wants to be friends, you're left high and dry. If she's going away to college, I'd let her go alone and find out what she wants as it doesn't sound like she even knows herself. There'll be plenty time to hook up later but don't leap into anything regardless of the fact you say you have no ties. She'll be starting a new chapter in her life and once there may realize she wants to do that without you so close. Don't get sucked into her world if you're not a proper part of it. Think about the long term effect of you going with her. Take time to consider this and as I said, talk to her to clear up any confusions and uncertainties.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Just a word to the wise. How you get her is the same way you will lose her. I personally wouldn't be able to trust her. I mean she did "hook-up" with you while she was still with him. Is that her way of solving problems in relationships? Is that the way she would handle it if you and her had problems? I mean she is still with him. Why not break it off and then pursue something else? Just think that one day that same guy just might be you. Why does she NEED someone to go with her out of state? These are questions you should ask before you ask Is she interested? Her being interested is far less important because at one point she was interested in him too! Good Luck.
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