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writes:I recently was told by my GF (of 2 yrs) that she has a sexual addiction. I've gone on many websites since she admitted this to find out how to deal with it.I know she's had a wild past, but the websites I've gone to (Posarc.com is a good one) say that acting out is part of the cycle.To top that off, I recently found a bottle of Valtrex in one of her purses. Of course after looking that up, I found out its to treat herpes.Our sex life suffers too. I notice she will turn me down, and yet when I leave the room, she will "do herself." Not that that's not cool, but why turn your man down just to get yourself off? From what I've read on the sites, that's definitely a sign of detachment.I'd like to hear from you all on if I am to believe she is faithful? She did admit she has an addiction, I guess what I want to know is...is she saying that to cover the fact she may be "acting out" or cheating with someone(s) else? Maybe random people? Or is she saying it because she truly wants help? She hasn't had counseling for it since college. I love her but I don't want to be a fool and I don't want to keep finding out dark secrets about her.Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2013): The major problem here is that you didn't know she was taking medication for herpes. Go get yourself checked and THEN confront this woman. Your health is more important.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (18 June 2013):
Dude, first go to your doctor and get checked for STDs. Like tomorrow. Next, get far away from this woman. I dont envision a likely scenario where this ends well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): Strange that a woman with a sexual addiction would consistently turn down sex.
I can see why you're suspicious.
OP you need to talk all this out with her and ask her all these questions. I would very much think she's cheating too, I mean she has a supposed sexual addiction right, then she must be getting it fulfilled somewhere if she's turning you down.
Also I've only ever heard sexual addiction being used as an excuse for cheating.
I mean I've heard of people with massive sex drives that drive their partner crazy by constantly needing it, but the word sexual addiction only ever seems to come into it as a "reason" why they cheated.
The only person who can put your mind at ease is her OP.
The only other thing I can think of is that she has an addiction to porn.
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