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writes:i have been dating a girl for over a year now, but the relationship hasn't really been smooth (she treats me badly sometimes), i think its because the sex was bad, she broke up with me once but we got back again, now we have broken up again and she is seeing some other guy i know though she told me she is just going with the flow and she is not really with the guy, i really love her and getting over her has been difficult, though she has said i should move on, i find it hard and anytime i delete from my social network she gets me back, she still hasn't told her sister we are done. so what do you think is it worth it? does she still like me? some one help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionrecently she called me and said she was just tired of everything and she thinks love and marriage is overrated and she is really confused and all
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reader, Ana Q  +, writes (6 May 2011):
Please, please PLEASE take my advice and delete her from your social networks and never look back. Easier said then done, sure. But this woman keeps popping back in and out of your life preventing you from truly moving on. If she loved you she would be with you now. She is telling you to move on and is already seeing somebody else. It doesn't matter what she is doing with this guy or 'going with the flow'. The truth of the matter is that she is not in love with you and chose to move on. You say she keeps coming back on your networks, but are you bringing her in or is she requesting it? If it's you then you need to delete her and move on. Doesn't it feel horrible to see current photos of her and her life knowing your not in it? Why torture yourself. If it's her trying to stay in your network, then she is just trying to keep you in her life because it's a security thing for her to know you are still around- even though she is with someone else. It is not respectful to you. She has made it clear that she no longer wishes to have a relationship with you so you must move on- social networks and all. That is the tough part about dating in this age- we end up having to break up once and then all over again on our Facebook, Twitters, etc. Once you can let go of her completely (deleting her)....your moving on will be easier and faster. Best of luck. Love is tough.
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reader, Love_hurtz +, writes (6 May 2011):
Sadly, I think she probably means what she says: she's just 'going with the flow'. In other words, she's enjoying her new relationship, but doesn't want to be eliminated as a possibility in your life, so she hasn't told everyone she's moved on, and she doesn't want to let you move on either. If you think you are or have really fallen for her, I would suggest you continue to distance yourself. If you let her keep staying I touch, you'll play right into what she's trying to accomplish by strengthening her hold over you. Find someone else for now, and if she wants to get back together, tell her you're not looking for another short term fling with her; that you really care about her, but if she just wants to be your girlfriend briefly before moving on again, you'd rather just stay friends. It may sound difficult, but I really do believe that is the best solution.
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