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writes: Dear Cupid,I have a 'friend' who i have been seeing alot lately whether it be a date, at my house for a swim or even we go shopping together. She has even called in sick at work just to spend the day with me (in my pool, lunch, then the movies). She is very sexy and i am almost sure i am in love with her. However, even though we are so close and even after i have mentioned my feelings towards her, her exact reply was that " she hates losing good friends after they ask her out, and she also said that i am like a brother to her" .... I was a little heart broken from these remarks but we still go on dates to the movies, theme parks and everything at least twice a week just without the kissing and the intimacy.....We are really good friends but i cannot seem to crack the code of turning this friend into my girlfriend.....What do i do??
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reader, kris_85 +, writes (19 October 2008):
kris_85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt has now been almost 2 years!!! (How time flies) and I am in love with the same girl that i thought i was in love with back then. I love her more than ever right now..........but as always with me, there just has to be complications....We still hang out often but probably not as often as before. She has been single since 2006 but has started dating this guy for the past 5 months. Even though this girl is hott! She does not sleep around...she has excellent morals....I don't have anything against her boyfriend and i cannot blame her for getting with him. She has done nothing wrong. I just love her too much and everytime i am hanging out with her, we try our best to avoid talking about her boyfriend (because she knows how i feel towards her). She is just the most beautiful person i have ever met. Just the thought of her brightens up my day. She's just so cheerful. It's like a breath of fresh air everytime i'm with her. She brings me back to life. In 2 weeks i am going on a weekend holiday with her as friends. Nothing more, nothing less.
But my dilemma is, how long can i go on loving her unconditionally? I feel like i'm dying inside.....
PS: I love this girl so much that i'm willing to wait and see what happens next. But in doing that, i'm scared that i will never find true love. I just love her to bits. In 2006 i was not sure, but now i am, even though we are seemingly breaking into our own ways.
It sorta feels like i am playing a role in a movie such as 'The Notebook'......
Need answers soon!!
Thank you...
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reader, kris_85 +, writes (29 November 2006):
kris_85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks heaps smeedle....
You sound like you know what you're talkin about.....You are right though it is very hard to be friends with girls in this way and it is very rare...I will take your advice and relax 4 the time being....Hopefully something develops in future (near future...hehe) but i won't push my luck any further for now....
Thanx again...
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 Be glad you have such a wonderful friend, she sounds like a friend that will always be with you to share the ups and downs of life, there to listen to you and hold you when your heart is breaking, there for you to confide in and talk things through when life gets rough and it will.
Take your friendship for what it is and make that enough, good and loyal friends are much more of a rarity than girlfriends who will come and go with time.
Maybe in the future something will develope that takes your friendship to a new level but dont push it, just relax and love her in the plutonic way.
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