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writes:I dont think I have ever really been happy in a realitionship.The one im with right now we were happy in the bigining but now she would rather watch tv then even sit and talk with me.Sometime I feel like im her bitch.Like She never asks me please or thank you.She just assumes that I will do whatever.She dosent seem to want to do anything with me.I dont mean to seem like im whinning but what should I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 September 2007):
Without a job she doesn't respect you. I question whether you really can't find a job or are now freeloading. I suggest you find a new job and a new girlfriend. You have destroyed this relationship. Learn from your mistakes and do better the next time.
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reader, Winston +, writes (14 September 2007):
Winston is verified as being by the original poster of the question In Response to your answers.There is alot more to the problem than I posted.I think that I need to let you know the whole picture so you can give me a accurate answer so here it goes.I have been dating here for 5 months now.At first we spent all our time together she even missed a week of work to be with me.It was the love at first sight kind of thing.She is actually different in outter apperance than all of the other girls I have dated.Shes a little bit thicker.The only bad thing in the biggining was that she wanted sex all the time all day every day,and I told her no that,thats not what I wanted I mean if I wanted sex Its not hard to get,no I wanted something more.I did this for about 2 months where we had sex like once a week or so.She told me that that really messed her up.So I had some mixed up feelings then.But I still stayed with her.Then one day like at about 2 and a half months she didnt come home from work one night.I was so worried I didnt know what happened.I stayed up all night not knowing what to do.I didnt have a phone at this time so I couldnt call her.So she finally came home the next day at about mid day.She then told me that hadnt felt like comming home so she we to a party with some of her friends.And that she had lost feelings for me.So I started packing my things and she was trying to comfort me but I didnt want her to touch me I told her that she made me sick.She startd crying and I left.She called me over at my friends house that night and she wanted to talk so being stupid I did.She kept telling me that she had lied to me she just had went over to her aunts house witch is like next door pretty much.She said that she told me that the reason she said that she had lost feelings for me was because that she thaought she was holding me back.But I didnt understand.I got back with her and moved back in.A few weeks afterward I lost my job from lack of work so that kinda set me back.Made me sad ,deppressed,angry everything but happy.Im still without a job Believe me I look really hard.I hate being at home all day everyday.But latly she tells me when she gets home that she is tired and dosent want to do anything,but if one of her friends calls and asks her to do somthing then she is all for it.Like I said before she comes home turns on the tv and thats where she is until she goes to bed.I actually tried to talk to her and turn off the tv but she flipped out on me.so I dont know what to do about that.I try talking to her when we get into a argument like a adult but she does thing that annoy me like saying under her breath like omg jesus rolling her eyes.She can like never look me in the face when I try to talk to her so I dont feel like she is listining.well I think thats pretty much it I dont mean to tell you my lifes story.Its just easier to type then to say.
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reader, Just a Girl...  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 honey, clearly you feel this is not a healthy relationship, so my question is why aren't you in a relationship with a girl who can give her all to you?? this girl sounds disintereseted and to be honest like she's taking you for a ride. I suggest that an option you should consider is finding someone who gives as much to the relationship as you do, honey. xxx good luck
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reader, princess_sparkle +, writes (14 September 2007):
it seems to me like you may be a little shallow. Most girls are not like that and you may be dating girls just because you think theyre attractive, or rich, or whatever. If that is so then you might need to reevaluate your attitude. Also, maybe its not them, you could be doing something wrong in all your relationships that your not aware of, or maybe you are aware of, if that is the case then you need to make some changes. If neither one of these apply to you and you truly do date girls that are duds then you tell them how you feel, if they dont change then get out of the relationship and keep trying to find the girl for you.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Hello Winston
I wouldnt say you are whining because you are concerned about the situation you are encountering in this relationship. she is not giving you the attention you deserve and I know it really hurts to feel like an outsider or intruder in your own relationship. unfortunately for her she need to start talking sit her down and really talk about this, if she ignores and heard for the remote just switch off that tv and demand some respect maturely, remember you wouldnt want this to end up with some senseless fight otherwise you will not be able to reach any kind of normality in the house.
the fact that you are able to notice the difference it means things have really changed so its not your imagination, maybe she doesnt want you anymore or whatever her reasons maybe, she is not suppose to ignore you. saying "thanx" its a decent thing to say infact it is one of the first etiquettes we are taught while still young.
so its up to you whether you will want to continue this relationship with someone who lacks common values like that or you will want to leave her and find someone you share the same values with. judge for yourself.
Jovial
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reader, Jovial +, writes (14 September 2007):
Hello Winston
I wouldnt say you are whining because you are concerned about the situation you are encountering in this relationship. she is not giving you the attention you deserve and I know it really hurts to feel like an outsider or intruder in your own relationship. unfortunately for her she need to start talking sit her down and really talk about this, if she ignores and heard for the remote just switch off that tv and demand some respect maturely, remember you wouldnt want this to end up with some senseless fight otherwise you will not be able to reach any kind of normality in the house.
the fact that you are able to notice the difference it means things have really changed so its not your imagination, maybe she doesnt want you anymore or whatever her reasons maybe, she is not suppose to ignore you. saying "thanx" its a decent thing to say infact it is one of the first etiquettes we are taught while still young.
so its up to you whether you will want to continue this relationship with someone who lacks common values like that or you will want to leave her and find someone you share the same values with. judge for yourself.
Jovial
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 September 2007):
Obviously your selection process is flawed. There are plenty of appreciative girls out there. You should be able to tell after a couple of dates. I think you may only look for outside beauty.
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