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writes:I need some advice. I have been dating this lady for 3 months. Things started great. We dated and had fun along the way. Over the course of the 3 months I fell in love with her. She has not and I respect her for taking her time. During this time we have spent 2 or 3 days a week together. We have talked on the phone or even texted each other. But sometimes after I call or text, I won't hear from her until the next day.I have asked her about that and she said she gets caught up in the things going on around her and forgets. We have been on dates where she checks her phone and shuts it afterwards. I don't ask, because I feel it is not my business. My question is at what point in time during a relationship could I expect a call or text on a daily basis? I realize it is a door which swings both ways. I have called and left a voicemail or text message, but I might hear back the next night. I treat this lady very well and with great respect. I am a gentleman and treat her in such a way. It breaks my heart to sit here at home waiting for the phone to ring, wondering what might be going on. Thanks for the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I don't think there is anything going on other then she does forget. She does eventually get back in touch with you which is a sign she does really like you and nothings going on otherwise she wouldn't bother at all. I've been in a relationship for over a year and not once have we called each other on a daily basis. We might have called each other a few times in this year but we don't need to as we can text or see each other often. The fact you see this woman 2-3 times a week is a sign she probably feels as though you don't need to phone her everyday as you see each other often enough. If you happened to phone each other everyday you might run out of things to say and your relationship could come to a hault. I think you should let her have her own space and time to herself which is probably what she is doing on her own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Dont worry so much. My boyfriend does that to me all the time. I'll call him and he might not call me back till the next day. He usually is working or falls asleep. Its very annoying I know but its normal too. Dont worry so much about it. And if she checks her phone in front of you just ask what she's doing. Its a curiousity question. If someone (anyone!) did that in front of me I'd probably ask. You are worring and just need to relax. You both have lifes outside of each other. If she doesnt call back till the next day dont worry about it.
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