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*eryshyguy10
writes:I have started a course a couple of weeks ago and there is a girl on it who I really like. I want to ask her out but I'm shy to do that so what I did was I talked to her during the breaks on the course to get to know her and see what we have in common and she seems really nice by all means (she told me she is single, has no kids, etc). Today I asked her if she would like us to do something after the course ends (which will be a couple of weeks time) so she gave me her number but I'm not sure what to do next.I am confused by this cause I'm not sure if she gave me her number cause she wants us to be friends or she gave me her number cause she likes me and may also want to go on a date.Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.
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reader, VJay  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 The next step? Well she gave you her number. So maybe she is expecting you to give her a call. Or maybe she likes you too and wants to go out with you. So it wouldnt hurt if you try to give her a call and ask her out.
Just give it a try. Good luck yeah.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): I like your question because I think it is very cute when guys admit they are shy. Since she gave you her number, she is probably expecting you to ask her out.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Who cares what her intentions are? Make a move. Force yourself to act against your shyness. How lonely would the world be if we could only ask out girls who already reciprocated our affection? The vast majority of relationships start as people who are open to the idea, then develop affection over the course of dating. This coulde be one of those.
And if it doesn't work out? Oh well, that's part of life. Fearing loss is the surest way never to gain. Go take the risk, ask her out, and best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Call her don't text.
Tell her thank you for her number, and ask her where she'd like to go on your date. Yes, use the "date" word! Have three ideas. Something were you both can have a chat. Not the movies, because then you can't talk, and it's waste of time, wait for movies when you've known her for a while. So, bowling, ice-skating, fair ground. Or just simply a pub lunch on a Sunday. The kinda place that has a real menu, not a just half a hog dinner.
The fact that you've got ideas of places to go, your calling it a date, she'll know up front that your wanting to be more than just friends. Also tell her that you'll be free so and so date.
Good luck! I did the same type of thing this time last year, I'm still seeing the same lass a year later!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Well veryshyguy if she already volunteered the info of no children and the fact she's very single then she's wanting you to take her out on a date. Not a friendship.
Take her number and give her a ring..ask her out for friday or saturday night. From what you have learned about her, judge what you think she would like to do. In case you're at a loss, take her to see a play, ice skating, a nice dinner, maybe a combination of the two?
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