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writes:So I've liked this girl for a few months. My friends told me she liked before the summer so I told her i liked her..but she said she didn't feel the same way. We became best friends and got on with things. Then summer started and my friend had a party. I ended up kissing the girl i like and to me it felt amazing but she said she felt nothing. However, a week later we were talking on the phone the day before she was going on holidays for three weeks...she said she could not stop thinking about the kiss and thinks she may have feelings for me...well the next three weeks of my life were horrible. I could barely talk to her and i knew she was on a girls holiday so I had no idea what would happen. During the last week she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me and had gotten with no other guys. When she was back we kissed a few more times and shared a bed a few times. Then we went on holiday with out friends but had a fight...however three nights later we got together again. When we were back I thought she did like me so i asked her to my school formal that was in a month and she said yes. However, when college offers came out she realized she had to move away and then told me she didn't have feelings for me but wanted to stay my best friend. It's been 6 weeks since she moved away and she has been back home every weekend and we have talked everyday. we have talked about us a lot and she says she doesn't see me the same way but says things could change in the future...In my clique of friends half are saying move on and the others are saying don't give up. When in college shes only a 3 hour drive away and she is home every weekend....I would go to the end of the earth for this girl...but I don't know what to do now..Some people say she is saying she doesn't like me because she doesn't want to risk our friendship in a long distance relationship...Do I give up and move on? or do I keep trying...?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (18 October 2010):
 Well that was quite immature of her and spiteful to put a picture up on facebook. I suggest all you can do now, is cut al contact with her, delete her from facebook and delete her number and ask her never to contact you again, you deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your reply...but i just got word that the girl kissed a guy to have a photo put on facebook so i would see...that one minute she would say she will get with me again and then the next say she would say "what was i tihnking with him"...i feel used and betrayed...not only did i love her but she was my best friend...all of that friendship just seems fake now
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (16 October 2010):
Hi, yes it sounds like this girl doesnt want to get caught up in a long distance relationship, especially going away to college for the first time. This is usually the part of our life were we go out in the world on our own and meet new people and enjoy ourselves out socializing and joining new groups, she may not want to be held back with having a boyfriend.
Am afraid you cant keep hanging on if she doesnt want the same things as you as you are holding out for something that may just hurt you even more than it would now and its not worth holding on to some hope that she would change her mind you need to get on with your own life and concentrate on yourself.
You need to be honest to her and tell her how you feel ask her does she see herself ever being with you or are you wasting your time and ask her to be completely honest with you as you need to know one way or another.
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