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writes:I have a girlfriend going for two years and I wonder why she never post pics of us together online on her page. I see women do it all the time but she does not. She says she loves me more than I would ever know but I don't feel like she is representing me as much as u represent her. I initiated a relationship status and she changed hers also but she won't confirm her profile invite for relationship status claiming that she can't see it when I sent it. I find it hard to believe. Reply to this Question
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reader, corywink +, writes (3 December 2014):
Let's all be honest here...the real reason is because fb is a "potential" dating site....if ur girlfriend doesn't wanna post pics of you two together, or change her relationship status, face the facts bro..she's still hoping for something better to come along. She's NOT being shy or low profile or she wouldn't be on the site in the first place. If ur both in a equally loving relationship then ya both post...PERIOD !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013): i had the same problem with my gf, she is a very private person and i am more of a show off. so i confronted her and told her i needed some recognizion as her boyfriend, i told her that i was ok if she didnt want to change her relationship status (in blank) but i was going to upload a few pictures of us together and tag them. i told her that that would make me very happy and i would have the recognition i wanted. i also told her that if she didnt accept we would be pretty much done. i made sure to remark that is not about FB, its about the recognition of your partner. see how she reacts. if she refuses to accept it that is a huge red flag. if she says she wants to keep her life private and only for herself why on earth does she HF have a fb account?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): Thank god I don't have Facebook. Deader than disco nowadays, and not worth the bother.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Another person judging the strength of their love and relationship by whats on some dumb social networking site!!!...really, it's not good.
Eventually it will be a divorceable offence if spouses don'twear shirts with A4 prints of their other half plastered on them declaring 'I belong to this person'
No wonder so many people are choosing to stay single...relationships these days are under the social spotlight with a 'like' or 'relationship status' bomb underneath them...how stressful!!!!!!!!!!!
In the old days, people kinda kept their relationship stuff to themselves, that's what made it special and last so long!!!
(I was amused to see your age...I thought you were in the 16-18 bracket!!)
Good luck.
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reader, truelondoner +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Your girlfriend seems like a very private girl. That isnt a bad thing, look at beyonce and j-z. They keep their replationship private. Thats how relationships last. Mabey she is insecure of anyone wanting to know about your relationship with her incase they may try to interfear. Dont be angry just respect her disisions. She may just be doing it for the best. You both love one and other, so you dont always need to expose this with the social network. Goodluck and dont take this to heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): I think it's now time to have a open discussion not an argument though just a talk and for you to lay your cards on the table, so to speak . And for her to do the same, I also find it extremely odd that a relationship two years down the line does not have any mention of her current status as in "in a relationship" or pictures of you both.However if you roll over and let her tickle your tummy, I'm sorry to say she will continue to do this. So have a open chat, tell her you don't think she respects or values what you both have and if she having doubts then here the time to say . As believe me there are many females looking fora. Genuine guy and you may have to toot your attributes basically sell yourself to her remind her of all your good points and do raise any negative habits you have. And please listen to whatever she has to say... Only through communication will you either move on together or as a singleton but hey life does go on if the latter is the case.Take care
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reader, Kindpigeonette  +, writes (10 February 2013):
My ex (of 1 year) did this and he was a manipulative rat. I confronted him multiple times and he would say "It's just Facebook." If it's "just" Facebook, then what is the big deal or? He finally agreed to post a photo of us together to his wall, but it ended up being private so that only I could see it. He also said he couldn't find the relationship invite. Sure. It ended up he was in a secret relationship with another woman on Facebook (his ex wife?). Even after removing their relationship he still couldn't (supposedly) figure out how to add me as his girlfriend. Here is a test for you though. Add a photo of you two together to her wall and tag her in it. Make YOUR profile pic of you two together and write a note like "love you babe". See how she reacts. All I had to do was change my profile pic and somehow he "realized" Facebook wasn't for him and deactivated his account. He was a 36 year old man btw. Oh, and one if his friends just happened to be his ex wife...with a profile photo of her and him together and "married" as her relationship status. I would confront her. If she is anything like my ex, Im telling you that she is bad news. Good luck!!!
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