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Shall I keep ignoring my coworker's gossip or go to my boss and report this?

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Question - (13 October 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 October 2007)
A female Thailand age 41-50, anonymous writes:

hello dear cupid and to all of you, i just really need help veeeeeeeery much. i am working at hotel. i have this co"workers of mine who like gossip so much, everytime she is talking to our guest she always tell them bad things about me" and not only me all our waitress, she always tell to the guest bad things about us.. since we" meaning me and the waitress dont like to have trouble we just trying to keep our mouth shut. but its affecting me very bad although its not true what she is saying.. and either its true or not i think its my personal life that she is interfering. she is doing this already for a long time but im trying to ignore her but sometimes if im on the middle of the situation i feel soooooooooooo angry.. anybody has suggestion how i can deal with this? shall i keep ignoring it or go to my boss and report this?.. tnx a lot to all of you..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007):

I agree with "somewhat anonymous". You definitely need to talk to the boss, but be sure to include the co-workers in the meeting, also. I can't believe this person has been allowed to go on with the gossiping so long. The customers, I'm sure, are not amused.

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A male reader, somewhat_anonymous United States +, writes (13 October 2007):

I would go to the boss, but show solidarity by having everyone she talks about go to the boss. This is slander and harassment. She has no right to do this and RCN is right, customers are probably being turned away as a whole and possibly you are personally losing customers because of her.

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A male reader, clickyclick United Kingdom +, writes (13 October 2007):

clickyclick agony auntEvery one is subject to bully at some point in their life. Whether or not it is Physical or verbal it still is'nt a nice thing. There is something you can do about it. Talk to your boss and see what he can do about it. No one likes bullying.

Or if you don't want to take it far and not have a possible awkardness between u and your co-worker then maybe you could try talking to them some people can blab with out meaning to hurt other people. Personaly, I would go with this option and if they still continue spreading gossip then go and talk to your boss.

Hope You will Be Gossip-Free Soon,


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A female reader, flower girl United Kingdom +, writes (13 October 2007):

flower girl agony auntWhat she is doing she has no right to do and it is slander, if i were you i would take it to the management, i'm sure they would be very interested in getting this sorted out, especially if she is bad mouthing members of their staff to the guests, as it's hardly good for business.

Take care.xx.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (13 October 2007):

rcn agony auntDo you know what happens over a long period of time with this type of gossip? Lost customers. When I go somewhere and I stay at a motel, I'm escaping. I've left my career at home, even if it's a business trip, and the drama of what goes on around my natural surroundings. That last thing I want on a trip is to hear everything about what is going on with the employed at the motel I'm staying at.

I would say her behavior is very inappropriate, unprofessional, and should be reported to upper management. There are certain things that are unacceptable at the workplace and that's one of them.

Take care.

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