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writes:my best girl friend which I love and adore has sort of a double personality. When she is with me she is sweet and adorable! However, whenever she is with her friend, which I think is a bad influence, she become this wild party girl who jump any hot guy in the area. Basically, she becomes a slut. This hurt me... since i'm secretly in love with her. I also always help her with her studies. But, whenever that girl comes around she drops everything to have fun leaving me behind. It's not like I push her to do her homework but she is failing a lot of classes and start to cry about it. So, naturally I just propose to help cause my grades are always being top A. I tried to hint that her friend was a bad influence for her... But overall, it's like she think that girl is a lot of pure fun... Reply to this Question
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reader, Sphronas  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 She doesn't have a double personality, she is simply acting differently in different situations. When she is with you, you are helping her with her studies -- in this situation, it makes sense for her to show restraint and focus. When she is with her friend, they are trying to have fun. You would like to think she is "really" a sweet girl who becomes "a slut" under the influence of her friend, but really, she is a normal young woman who can sometimes be calm and focused and sometimes wild and relaxed. One thing is clear though: you really are just a friend to her, she is not interested in you romantically (if she were, you would know by now). So you should regard her strictly as a friend, who is free to party with other men whenever she feels like it. If this is too painful for you, and one-sided feelings often are, then you should stay away from her and look for someone who returns your feelings of love and respect. You WILL find that person.
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