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writes:Okay well I'm 14 and for like 4 years now I have always been second choice. I no a lot of people have this problem and I am sort of like whining but oh well. Okay I have friends but I am always second choice like of someones not there or no one to hang with it's me. I don't really get what I do wrong. Maybe im not cool or fun to hang with and I not like unpretty and not really fat. Also basically all my friends have or have had boyfriends and me none I'm lucky if I talk to them. So basically any advice one whatever you will think will help. Reply to this Question
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reader, darthangel165 +, writes (13 April 2010):
 I think you should find people who really appreciate you. I had this problem and I still do. What really helps is to span your amount of friends until you find that right group to hang wit. And its not cause ur not pretty or fat or havent had a bf that they wont hang out wit u as much as other people. People are jerks. so, dont let them get to you. You just need to find ppl who really appreciate you for who u are. It will def help you in the long run and maybe help you get a bf or two =]. good luck and i hope my advice helps =]
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reader, MiSS KaT +, writes (13 April 2010):
Hun, no worries if I am correct you should still be in Middle School, 8th grade year or in your Freshman year of High School.I went through the same shit. Every one of my Friends all had boys friends and I just felt like a third wheel. But now that I am a Jr. I now see that what I felt back then is not what I am feeling now and that my past friends arent my friends anymore and NOW I know who my real friends are because even if they have boyfriends or girlfriends we are close enough to chose eachother because our friendship, and the memories that we have had together mean allot more to us then our "significant others" could. So no worries hun. Things always turn out for the better. But until then YOU take the initative and go meet other people. Find your own little nich and just go with it because your true friends will always follow. and hell you might find someone for yourself along the way. NOW GO GET EM!!!!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 I know what you are saying I'm 37 and I have the same problem with one friend in particular. What I did that helped me was make other friends that this girl didn't know. Now I don't care about being second choice to her cause I have lots of other friends to choose from.Hope this makes sense.
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