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writes:so ive been with this amazing guy for almost three years now and i love him to death. the thing is, we're always together but dont have much alone time so when we do, we want to make it count. we're both saving ourselves for marriage but we need to spice things up a little bit. if anyone has any suggestions or ideas, they're greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, fuglyone +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Try massaging his bunghole with a Tarzan action figure...be careful not to go too far with it, because they can hurt unless they have the soft Tarzan head on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha, yes guys. we're juniors; definitely not thinking about getting married anytime soon. but thanks for the advice. im also looking for small things i can kind of do to him to turn him on without being to obvious. (where to kiss him..how to kiss him? weird places other can be touched that might turn them on) i just want to surprise him. he's always the one making moves.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Tomas - Yup, sorry, forgot to check the age bracket. Thanks for reminding me :-)
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reader, Tomas +, writes (7 March 2009):
Cat - married, 16-17? Say it ain't so!
*sigh*, member of the "nobody should get married til 30" krewe.
You haven't said what level of physical intimacy you two have, or what level (short of intercourse) you are comfortable with, so it's hard to give specific advice.
In any case, whether spicy or mild, please have some birth control at hand (condoms). Not because you want to use them, but because if things get so hot that you two decide to "just put it in a little" or whatever, you will not want to stop and go down to Walgreen's.
Okay, I'd agree with Star, one of the easiest things to do is build anticipation. I love hearing that my partner isn't wearing underwear. Sometimes I will shave her "down there", not have sex (maybe a few test kisses for stray hairs), and then she will tell me through the day how it feels (usually very cool but moist). She'll ask whether I can see her nipples through her top.
Little things, not even explicitly sexual, but they bring the mind around to your partner's erogenous zones.
A good massage with oil (and towels on bed), one or both sides, can be nice.
A passionate kiss, out of nowhere, and then carrying on with whatever you were doing.
Basically all forms of the great art of teasing.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (7 March 2009):
Is actually getting married now, still out of the question? That way, you're still together, you still spend a lot of time together, and most importantly, you get to have sex! Yaaay!
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): yes - tell him what you want to do to him later. wear a skirt with no underwear and let him know.. blindfold him, tie him up -sigh so many things...
However, talk to him...tell him what you would like...talk to him find out what he likes....
STar.x.
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