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30-35,
*otsure92
writes:I don't know what my heart wants. For some background information I dated a smart boy with the sam beliefs as me and who over time became my best friend in the whole world. My world revolved around us and our relationship. Because of this, we got to know every detail about each other and with time became to love each other more than anyone else. A silly mistake that wasn't much of anything lead to my parents saying we were too young and needed to break up before we were mature enough for a relationship. During this time we stayed strong and stayed best friends besides the kissing and affection gf and bf's might display. Inside we still had the love but held it in. I never really had been attracted to this skinny red haired boy but his personality made me attracted to him. As we got older we drifted slightly and I moved on because I wanted to figure out exactly why I was so attacted to him and if I could move on because I felt like we were drifting anyways. I felt like I could maybe do better. I found a nice boy who on the outside, was big and muscular and makes me feel secure and loved. His personality, on the other hand is hard to deal with at times because we never see each other and his time seems to be spent on himself or the gym. Yet he stated that he fell in love with me after about two months of dating.More time went by and one day reality slapped me in the face and truly realized how much I missed my first love and my old best friend. We talked and even though he has a gf and I have this bf we both still love each other and wish things were back to the way they were. I HATE hurting people and I can't possibly get myself to realize who I love because honestly they both are two completely different people. Maybe I love him because I've known him longer and maybe I love my currrent boyfriend for his looks and for his love back. What should I do?
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reader, Pyro_Dimples +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Honey,
If the other guy treats you right and even though you aren't attracted to him you still love him then I would say go with him. I myself am very shallow and like to date good looking guys but I always make sure I can stand who they are inside. This current boyfriend sounds like even though he is hot he doesn't satisfy your needs emotionally. Take it from someone who knows. Looks fade...Go with the guy that you know your loves not going to fade for when the looks go.
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