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writes: a while ago, me and my best friend had a falling out because she betrayed me. ever since then, sides got formed, more people became more bitchy and there was obvious tension in the air. not wanting to stir up any drama as all of us had been a big group of friends, we avoided it and pretended it wasnt there to keep things at peace. it's actually to the point where there are small cliques being formed, and secrets and bitching are happening behind peoples' back. me and my friends were getting sick of them. now that we have made it known to them, its a relief but it has caused a lot of drama and conflict again.basically i just want to ask. anyone else having experienced this. isnt it better to have the truth out in the open? i hate how for such a long time its been us pretending that nothings wrong and that we can all get along well when the truth is we dont.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Can I just say, don't worry I've just had the same thing happen over a guy and I'm 45!!! Look, smile, walk on and ignore others' behaviour. I beieve it is always better to be truthful and true to your beliefs! Be honest with yourself and others and that is all you can do. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): My longest lasting friendship is with a man. Twenty two years this Summer. Over the years, we've had a few arguments, but nothing that open communication, understanding and compromise could not solve. My next long lasting friendship has been fourteen years this Summer. We've had ONE argument since we've become friends. Again, nothing like open communication, understanding and compromise could not solve. I had one more friend, whom I knew since my elementary school days and had reunited about nine years ago. Our relationship strained in the last couple of years, mainly due to his inability to communicate with others, his controlling ways where he tries to forces his 'foes' into corners, never trying to understand others and what really urked me about him, was that he truly believed that open communication was wrong. He felt that people should automatically be able to read his mind. -----The purpose of my comments above should be quite obvious. I am unsure about your own standards and ego, but for me, if a relationship has strained to a point where no further compromise can be done, I would gladly and bluntly dissolve our ties.
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