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writes:i'm 15 years old, and im almost 4 months pregnant.the father of the baby, i was with over a year.. then we broke up .. now he is putting alot of stress on me and i don't know what to do, he doesnt want anything to do with the baby or me. but he just wont leave me alone , and im getting really sad about it and upset :( .. and i tried to ignore him but it wont work , please tell me something to do !! :( every answer would help me so muchthank you.
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reader, jazmarie  +, writes (9 February 2009):
 aww.. sweety, well first of all congrats.. i think the father is a mothaf***** jerk. i say you go up to him for the last time and tell him that all you want is for him to accept HIS baby, and that your not going to ask him for anything, because you have your family and friends. then walk away without looking back and with no tears on you face BE STRONG.. then let it go and trust me he will come back to you.. because he's going to realize what he lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): Oh my God!!! You poor thing. Your having baby first make sure you talk to him a discuss the babys future. YOU MUST TELL YOUR MUM AND DAD but don't tell the boy about you telling your mom and dad, make sure that your parents don't talk to him about it! Then make sure you go to school and get good education, ask your mom and dad to look after the baby!p.s I HOPE EVEYTHING TURNS AT OK ooooooh one last thing life isn't over yet !!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): First of all, congratulations! I know it may be an odd thing to say but a baby is never a bad thing, only the time in which they seem to come about. You are growing a brand new person inside of you, someone to love, nurture and guide. Babies are special and their presence is meant to be a blessing and a joy (no matter how stressful and tiring their arrival can be!) Look after this little person and help turn him/her into a person you can be proud of.
Second of all, the father is a complete loser which you have obviously figured out. He's not standing by you and living up to the consequences of his actions. If he's making it impossible to ignore him than maybe you need a restraining order (extreme I know, but it might put a check on his horrible behaviour) Do you have the support of your parents? If so, tell them about his behaviour and ask for their help in keeping him out of your life. Babies need stable and responsible characters in their lives. He should not be allowed in your childs life.
Be strong. Don't let the little bastard keep you down. Just concentrate on the things you enjoy, your friends, your goals and the happiness your new baby will bring. Sure you're going to find out a new definition of what 'hard' is but you won't regret having your kid.
Lots of Luck & Peace for the future. You'll be fine, just be strong xo
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reader, jmottram  +, writes (9 February 2009):
i would tell the father of the baby to help raise it or he can leave the familyif you are having issues raise the baby yourself and find a different man to have the baby with
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): You need to talk to him. Figure out what it is that he wants to do. Obviously he is confused. He is saying one thing, yet doing another. You should sit down with him, your parents, and his parents, and figure out a game plan. Decide on how involved he will be, etc. Try to relax and not feel so stressed about all this. Having a baby is definitely stressful by itself, and all this extra stress is hard on you and your unborn child. Try busying yourself with tasks that are helpful to you and baby. Take some classes, adopt some hobbies, go out with your friends and have a movie night. Anything to make yourself feel better. I really hope everything works out for you and I wish you the best of luck hun. Take care!
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reader, uluvme0723 +, writes (9 February 2009):
 Its not really much you can do. Obviously your going to have your baby. As far as the babys father goes, don't chase him. A man is only going to do what he wants to do. If he doesn't want to be apart of the babys life, oh well. No need to have your baby grow up around such a negative person. Talk to your parents, make sure you have their support. Your too young to go at this alone. God luck, and god bless.
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