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writes:Hi im 20 and have recently just found out that im 10weeks pregnant.I have also only been with my partner for 4 months who thinks i should have an abortion. I have always said that i wanted to have a husband and proper home before i have a kid, but part of me wants to keep it... im so confused..
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reader, im_a_dummy  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 hey, well i am pregnant. i went through the same thing, my bf didnt want me to keep it but i wanted it and honestly it is my body, and im the one going through all the pain so i kept it, and around my 5th month, he decided it was to much to handle and wanted out. he still wants to be the bby's dad but not be in my life but w/e. my advice is it is YOUR LIFE! its YOUR body, and honestly its YOUR decision. you can have ur bf give his input but over all it is up to you. if you want it, then i would say keep it, and if ur bf loves you he will respect that. one thing i had to do to figure out what i really wanted was a pro/con list. i wrote down everything that was good,[getting a family i never had, being a mom, having someone to love, not being lonely] and EVERYTHING that was bad.[school, im 15, birth, my body, chase leaving] and go over the list, find whats more importaint to you that you keep. i know its a hard choice. best of luck!
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reader, alexa_f88 +, writes (6 January 2009):
Heya hun
I know exactly how you feel - been there before, except I'd been with my boyfriend longer, but I was 19.
It's a really hard decision to make, but you have to weigh up all the points in favour of keeping your baby and in favour of an abortion. Your boyfriend definitely doesn't sound ready to become a father, so if you do decide to have your child, I wouldn't be relying on his support! You shouldn't listen to him either - well, listen, but don't let what he says cloud your judgement - he'll be being selfish. Talk to your friends and family, they'll want the best for you and will help out if they can.
I do advise though, if you decide to have an abortion, have it sooner rather than later. The longer you stay pregnant, the more attached you will become emotionally, and the harder it would be afterwards. Not that I'm promoting abortions, but if it's what's best for you...
Good luck with your decision. xx
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reader, satindesire +, writes (6 January 2009):
 I just wanted to pop in and let you know that if you decide to keep the baby, honey, you might not get any kind of support or anything from him.
If he has no interest in being a father, he might not ever want to see the baby or even want to try and be a good daddy to your child. Don't make your decision solely on his opinion, half of that baby's genetics are yours and you have just as much say as he does in whether you keep him/her or not!
Also, don't abort that child just because you're scared he'll break up with you if you don't...you could end up hating yourself for the rest of your life for that!!
On a side note sweetheart, this is WHY you should be using condoms and hormonal birth control...if you can't get pregnant at this point in your life because of these reasons, you HAVE to protect yourself!
Risking it by not using birth control ends up in these kinds of situations, okay? In the future, use birth control honey!
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (6 January 2009):
 Hi Hun this is the hardest thing to decide on, could you confide in your parents/family about this? He clearly is not ready to be a Father when he is asking you to do this, you need to be speaking to someone who can support you through this if you do decide to keep the baby will he support you? be there for you? help in bringing up this baby? so many questions you both need to be asking one another and as you are 10 weeks you do not have long if you do decide to terminate, my heart goes out to you and i ask you speak to your parents on this matter if that is not possible then some member of your family/close friend you need support around you in this time please think everything through before you make your decision i wish you well.
Gina
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reader, Nimmie +, writes (6 January 2009):
These kinds of decisions are so hard to make. My best advice is to ignore any influence from your boyfriend as although you know what he thinks you cannot let it affect yours. I think that the best advice that i could give you is that we all set goals and dreams that we want to achieve in our life, but in reality they rarely ever happen that way because you might fall pregnant accidently or find that you cannot find mr right. You need to think whether you can provide for the child emotionally and finacally and alone if your boyfriend decides that. Im sure you family will help you in this decision if not seek out a good friend to help you find a logically and emotionally right decision. Goodluck!
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