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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'll make this short. My previous sexual encounters with my ex boyfriend were absolutely excruciating, for this reason i'm scared to have sex with my current boyfriend. Deep down I know with him, it will be a much better experience - because my ex forced me into it and I did not feel ready. I just want to erase the fear of pain and feel relaxed enough to enjoy the experience.Secondly. I have a fear of orgasms, because the build-up feeling is associated with 'needing to pee' - when being fingered/rubbed I get this 'feeling' and rush to the toilet, but then nothing comes away from me. I feel like a dipstick when this happens, I am just too paranoid about peeing myself infront of a guy. As a result of this, i've never actually orgasmed before! Please help me!! Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): This happens a lot especialy to girls or woman that have been sexualy abused by someone and they can end up not having sex ever again but in your case u can go get medical help where they can walk u through this if u haven't already and take your boyfriend with u so u can both be in the same page because I know u want this feeling to go away so u can be free again but untill then u need special help and there's no problem with that and I assure u, u will be okayy if u want anymore help u can message me at [email address blocked]
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reader, cj1 +, writes (22 February 2010):
Tell him this. If he truly loves you he will understand and want to help you. Tell him how it feels and experiment with it. Try to overcome that feeling, if you do pee so what, but if you dont, the orgasm would be well worth it.
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