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writes:Hello, my name is Abbie, and i have been with my boyfriend for around a year and a half, we have a lovely relationship, and every thing is perfect, except 1 thing. I am unsure if it is a big issue, but i hope u can help. Me and my boyfriend are currently traveling, and i have recently discovered that he is masturbating in the shower, whist i am in the other room, our sex life isn't too good either, and i feel like he would rather masturbate then have sex with me. It makes me feel unwanted and loved, and i keep bringing it up, and it keeps causing arguments, and I am unsure of what to do, i hope u can help!Thank youAbbie
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): This needs an honest discussion about whether this a general preference of his which is not going to change (in which case can you live with it), a problem he has which he is willing to try to change, or it's a symptom of his lack of attraction to you personally. You need to talk to him in a non-confrontational manner to get honesty!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): It's too lengthy to get into here, but the real question is this....Can you live with it? It is very unlikely to change without some intervention by a professional. It's not your fault, you don't need to perform sexual tricks and buy new outfits, it won't help. So, ask your boyfriend if he is willing to change this situation, and if so, you will go to a counselor specializing in sexual disorders with him. If he refuses, can you live with his hand getting more action than you???
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (19 September 2009):
Spice thing up ask him what he like so u can please him better
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