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writes:Lately, I just can't stop fighting with my boyfriend! We've been together just over a year, and we used to get along so well. But for the past few months, we've both been under alot of stress, and take it out on each other. I feel like everything I say, he finds a way to interpret it negatively, so he can have a go at me, and I do the same to him.Now it's just turned into a habit, and I hate that we're always bickering and insulting each other. How can we break the habit, and be nice again? Reply to this Question
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reader, ShadowGoddess231  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Say okay honey, we've been doing this fighting for some time now and it's starting to hurt me. I love you and I hope you feel the same with me. Please talk to me and stop the bickering. Something like that. When he starts to interpret you, just wait till he is done and then continue with what you are saying to him and if he does again just keep a clam head and wait again. I really would like for you to read a book called, "The dance of anger". It will help you like it helps me out.When he starts telling you something, DO NOT bicker with him just listen to him. If you want the cycle to be stopped you have to be the one to brake it. So take the first but scary step towards what your goal of a happy and nice relationship. Read that book too for the extra boost that you'll need, I was told to read it and it helped me a lot!Good Luck!
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