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writes:open relationships; many believe they are pointless as they believe if you want to have sex with someone else, then the person you are with is not the one for you. however, i recently read that about 1% of hetrosexual marriages have one person them how is actually gay, but many stay with their current partner because, while not finding them sexually attractive, have fallen in love with their personality. i can understand this thanks to my best friend. together we have a great time, and very much enjoy each others company, but i do not intend to have sex with her. ever. is this how open relationships work?i would very much appreciate your views.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): I am currently in an open relationship which is working at the moment as both my husband and myself have agreed it is a better solution than us splitting up - I dont feel we could sustain this long term and it sometimes does not feel right but it is the best choice for us given our very complex set of circumstances. Obviously every case is unique and I think only the people involved can judge it. If it is right for the people involved at the time then it is right. I dont know what the future will be but I know this is the best solution for myself at the present time.
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reader, NJmomabear  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 Having open relationships...I am 100% against it. That is what being SINGLE is for. And people who are willing to part-take I would be very wary of them. They are probably people with commitment issues, esteem issues...all people who 'operate' from the wrong places and probably want to be with you for all the wrong reasons thus wasting your time. I'm sorry if nobody likes what I have to say about it, but the ole 'if you can't beat em, join em' attitude might bring temporary peace, but I think otherwise is very weak. When you find that one that makes you pop, you don't want to share them no matter how much time goes by. You don't wanna be that person to impose on that no matter who's idea it is. In the end it will just cause more trouble then its worth. There are much better, more positive things you can do with your time.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 May 2007):
 "Open Relationships" or Polyamory is the practice of having more than one loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. The relationships are long-term, intimate, and usually (but not necessarily) sexual. Persons who consider themselves emotionally suited to such relationships may define themselves as polyamorous, often abbreviated to poly.
I know I could never be polyamorous but that's just me. Why are you wondering about this anyway? You're not old enough to be even thinking about things like this, you're between 13 and 15 years old and should be enjoying being out with friends and just growing up!
Unless you and your friend have been intimate before then you do NOT have an open relationship, just a good friendship which is great! :o)
Eve
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