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*arbiedoll86
writes:Last year i came out of a long term relationship (i got married to the man towards the end) before i got married i met a man at work - who turned my life around! We fell completely in love! he was dating the secretary and obviously i was diue to get married.He had cheated with different girls for 2 years before me. I ran off with this man last year (post-wedding)Divorce is now coming through and this man has asked me to marry him what i want to know is will he do to me what he did to her?The age old story 'once a cheat always a cheat' is it true?
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reader, epicureansage  +, writes (19 February 2011):
Hold on a second - I hope I'm misunderstanding this - but YOU are worried about someone else' ability to be faithful...namely the guy you hooked up with while YOU were already with someone else? I hope I'm getting this wrong, since otherwise you'll both deserve each other (because the honeymoon WILL END, and then it'll be a race to see who will be going ELSEWHERE for their "fix"!)
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reader, MissVee  +, writes (19 February 2011):
If you treat him as if he is a cheater, he will probably cheat. Likewise, if you treat him in a way that suggests that he is genuine and willing to make the effort with you, there is a better chance of your relationship being harmonious.
Have you tried speaking to him about your concerns? Speak truthfully and from the heart, but don't accuse. Begin all your sentences with "I feel". Ask him to tell you openly what caused him to cheat on his previous girlfriends. This should give you an indication about whether or not he is prepared to remain faithful this time.
Perhaps you are the one who can tame this man. However, keep your eyes open. Good luck =)
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