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writes:I'm supposed to be writing a thesis but find myself thinking about my lover all the time, and scouring pages like these for answers. I don't think badly of him or suspect him of anything (except being a gorgeous rascal), I just wonder about him and when we can meet up and of course how we can develop our love.We're a fairly new couple so everything's dead exciting apart from a couple of issues out of our control at the minute. we don't see each other a lot or even regularly but we are definitely on and we know where we stand with each other.Do you think I'm obsessed with him or am I just using the tastiest thing I can to distract me from my responsibilities? Any tips on how to stay focussed? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I kind of know all this but it's immensely helpful to read you lot telling me this so I'm taking all your advices starting with getting a timer, getting off the internet and hopefully finishing some time next week with a quality paper, and maybe a nice romantic jaunt down to london so I can hand it in! Thanks guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): I'll third it. You don't want to tackle your thesis but it will always be there to torment you until you finish it off.
If you do not write your thesis you will never admit that you have a perfection complex and that that is the reason you failed.
Forget your relationship until you have your thesis printed and handed in at your library.
DO IT NOW!
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reader, Another_Kapiti +, writes (18 November 2009):
 It is hard to compartmentalise when you're in a brand new relationship! I can totally sympathise with you...however, I think maybe that you are procrastinating about your thesis! Are you having trouble with it?
I usually find my mind starts to wander when I'm unsure of the next step to take (work mainly!) and of course he is going to spring to mind first as you love him and can't wait to find out everything about him!
If your thesis is on a deadline, this isn't going to help you, remember at exam time when you had to make a schedule?
You need to do this again. Write thesis between 10-12, rest for an hour (think about boyfriend!) Work again for 2 hours and so on. I think once you concentrate a bit less on your boyfriend the easier your thesis will be!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): Break your project down into bite sized tasks. Work through a task before you think about the "lover".
Set "rewards" for completing a task that day. No cam sex with him if you accomplished nothing that day.
If the tasks are too big, or you are having trouble, then set time periods- such as 15 minutes that you will do nothing but work. Set a timer and put in in front of you and dont let yourself get off task for that period.
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