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Obsessing about a dream, and I don't leave the house

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Question - (25 August 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 August 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, *harlieWilson writes:

first off im 18 and male . i feel hopeless. i was perfectly fine 2 months ago. i cant stop feeling like this. it started in 9th grade, when my HOCD started. i thought i could be gay. it was so scary n depressing. now everything is better about that. but i didnt tell anyone. it became so bad i had bad anxiety and social anxiety. so i dropped out of high school. it wasnt until my 18th birthday that i realized i had HOCD (Google it if u dont know) i was so relieved, i couldn't wait to start back up my life. then something happened. i had a sexual dream about my sister. I was told people with OCD obsess about that stuff ( they r scared they would do it). but when i was young, me and my sister actually did do things (i never once forced her to) but never actual sex ( she masterbated me and blew me) but when that thought came in, i started feeling very depressed and low self esteem. i haven't left the house since it started. i really dont know wut to do

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

http://www.brainphysics.com/hocd.php

This may be of use for you, particularly the part at the bottom

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

It sound like when you have thoughts, conscious or in your dreams, that you wouldn't like to happen/be/do, such as if you didn't want to be gay and you thought you might be, then you were panicking and having anxiety attacks because of your HOCD. This may be the case with your dream about your sister, perhaps now you regret what you did with your sister when you were younger and now feel bad about it? Therefor you feel a lot more worse and worried that this dream might mean something more, like it's going to happen again? Again your HOCD could (I think more than likely) playing a part in this, as you may be aware. You can't control what you did sexually in the past, but you can control what you do sexually in the future. Perhaps you should talk to someone, such as a doctor or counsellor, that could put your mind at ease, and if they haven't already, give you tips on how to control (and possibly) get rid of your HOCD. If OCD can be cured, than I think HOCD could be too.

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A male reader, CharlieWilson United States +, writes (26 August 2009):

CharlieWilson is verified as being by the original poster of the question

CharlieWilson agony auntthat didn't help any, but thanks for tryin

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A male reader, EllsworthT South Africa +, writes (26 August 2009):

Are you kidding? Brothers and sisters play with each other more than anyone admits. Sex is fun, but hard to get. You two know each other, it's convenient, you're young and stupid, who cares?

So what if you're gay, or bi-, or whatever? Human sexuality is not so clear cut for some people. At your age, your hormones are surging and you'll have sex with just about anything. It's normal. But keep your feelings to yourself because even in 2009 people are way too hung up on sex. You're obviously insecure and probably couldn't handle their ignorant judgement.

Get out of the house. Stop feeling ashamed. Find a hooker or look for a swinger's group. Wear a condom.

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