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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm really annoyed with a girl I know. we used 2 be best friends but now she has a boyfriend. Normally when she had a boyfriend she'd still talk to me or stay in my house for the night but now she wont talk to me or anything.The thing that has me really mad is that for weeks I've planned a night out for my birthday. A meal and going out for a few drinks (since its my eighteenth). Yesterday one of my close friends said that she told her she wasn't coming to the meal but she was coming to the pub. You see the pub we're going to her boyfriend works in. I have nothing against this guy as i dont know him nor ever spoken to him But she promised she,d come out for the meal and she knew for weeks we were goingShe used to be like a sister to me now I'm lucky if I speak to her once a month and even in college, she's very moody towards her friends unless her boyfriend comes up in conversation :(Please help I dont know what to do and its really upsetting me
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 February 2010):
Have patience with her and give her time. Of course you're annoyed. But this is something that happens to young women. They get a boyfriend, and are suddenly on cloud nine in heaven. Make sure you spend time with other friends, and don't take it personally. She doesn't mean it at all. She's just got her head in the clouds at the moment.
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reader, rgreen120 +, writes (10 February 2010):
 At this age, this type of behaviour isnt uncommon. Girls dont realise that friends are so much more valuable than boys. I went through a similar stage. Maybe you just need to give her time? just tell her you will be there to pick up the pieces when/ if he screws her over. She will some come to realise, she made a bad mistake and maybe this will defere her away from making the same mistake again. I know this is hurting you and your other friends right now, but bugging her, or trying to ruin her relationship, will push her away further. you just need to let her realise that friends are more important in her own time.
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