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writes: I need HELP! My girlfriend is the love of my life. But she has no intentions of telling me what her feelings and thoughts are, she obviously distracted by something or someone. She gets very distant and quiet all of a sudden.(Shes nornally hyper as hell!)But when I ask what's the problem she clams up and refuses to open up. She hides things from me all the time and is really secrective. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Topps +, writes (25 October 2005):
Are you sure you are not my BF? he complains of the same things. He also makes the assumption that I am distracted by 'someone else' - not true. It my case I am just a girl of highs and lows, passion and mayhem. I am devoted to my BF and love him with an immense desire, but he does not need to know all my inner thoughts, noone does, in any relationship. Throughout our relationship, I have had to learn and still learning how my feelings and reaction impact on him. We talk, I sit down and look at how I have behaved and try (when possible) to consider how he will feel if I do... or say....
Talk Talk Talk is the best advice and if she wont talk, make sure she knows she can talk to you when she is ready.
There is a theory that only 10% of how we act in arguements/low times is to do with our present sitaution. The other 90% is do to with old wounds. is this her?
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