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writes:I have been with my bf a year and 4 months we used to have sex very often but now theres nothing what so ever we love each other to bits and he is very good to me but he does not have sex with me. If i say something to him he just says "All you think about is sex" like he has gone of it. Why do you think this is happening? He is not a cheating person AT all SO I know for def he is not going off with anyone else as he does not agree with that sort of stuff. Could you please help and give me some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): The thing is i got some underwear and toys and stuff and tryed to txt him kinky messages and talk to him but it does not work and we just argue. i dont no what else to do do i give up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): My last boyfriend did this to me. He had some stomach issues so he blamed it on that, then I had period issues he blamed it on that, then finally he had nothing else to blame it on but me. He said I wasn't trying hard enough for him blah blah typical jerk boyfriend response.
Now, I don't want to alarm you but perhaps he is getting bored sexually. Maybe you can add something extra, outfits, spanking, dirty talk. Do something you've been meaning to explore?
But other than that maybe he isn't feeling well and hasn't told you. Or even he is stressed about something he hasn't told you. Guys tend to hide things that make them seem weak.
You can bring it up to him but be as nice as you possibly can be because this could really hurt him and the his comment of you only thinking about sex sounds like a defensive comment.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 December 2008):
He's making you out to be a pervert to get out of it.
You have to keep pushing him. If he says "all you think about is sex" then point out that you haven't had it in X weeks and that unless he talks to you about it then you are going to assume he doesn't like you any more.
Ask him to give you a reason why he doesn't want you any more.
He knows what to say to make you shut up and go away. Scare him into talking about it by saying that if he doesn't want you then you can go elsewhere.
If you are having this problem only 4 months in then it is not a good sign. Prepare for the worst but give him a chance to make things better first.
Good Luck!! xx
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