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30-35,
*man18
writes:so pretty much my life i think is at the low and i dont know if it can get any better i try so hard to be the best i can but nothing comes of it...all i want is to be happy and spend my days with a girl that i can treat like every girl dreams of being treated....but no matter what i do or maybe i am just not doing anything i end up single....why what am i doing wrong am i trying to hard....i just feels that everything i am doing is for nothing....seriously i just want a girl friend....people tell me what a nice guy i am and they dont understand why i am single everyone tells me i am good looking but i feel like i am not if i have been single for ever....it just sucks what am i suppose to do help me please i need advice on life Reply to this Question
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reader, Zim  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 Firstly, I understand completely where you are coming from. I was exactly the same as you and in some respects still am.Unfortunately, one of the things in life that we are meant to understand is that most things happen when we don't expect them to. Relating that to this situation, my most amazing relationships have started because I met them when I wasn't expecting them. I've found that if I "look" for a girlfriend, I not only get frustrated but don't get anywhere either. By the sounds of it, you're a romantic. This with being told you're good looking and a nice guy bodes well for a future relationship, but remember you are only 16-17. I had my first relationship at 17 so if your worrying about not having a relationship at your age, don't. It's not actually that common. The most attractive thing, is confidence. If you seem to be desperate to get a girlfriend, women will steer clear for you. Trust me, I speak from experience on this. However, if you are confident in yourself and project that to everyone around you, and "stop" looking, you'll be surprised at how many people you didn't seen before but now think, "wow". All it then takes is to ask them out for a coffee. A nice way to do it is to say something along the lines of, "Excuse me, I don't want to seem too forward, but I was wondering if you would like to have a coffee sometime?". That simple line has worked many a time. So in summary, build up your confidence, stop actively looking for a date(I know it doesn't sound logical:-)) and relax with life. It sounds like you are a really great guy and a girl will be very lucky to have you. Unfortunately, it is just a waiting game, but we ALL have to play it.I hope that advice helps you. Please reply if there's anymore I can do to help.ZIM
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