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writes:This is a bit embarrassing but by wife has a hairy vagina that I find quite a turnoff. I don't know how to discuss the issue with her without hurting her feelings. I trim and shave myself but my wife seems to prefer herself untrimmed. We've been married now for nearly five years and it's getting to be a real problem for me. I've tried to drop hints the few times she does trim but it hasn't worked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Well, I'm a guy that loves hair and my wife also is hairy and I love it!
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reader, cutiepye  +, writes (1 October 2009):
 I don't like hair there either even on my husband I joke around and say u need to shave that bush lol and he then agrees yea I do that made it clear I dnt like it. He never got mad or offended if she loves you and wants to turn you on she will do it for you and not get mad. I don't think I would say hey ur turnin me off down there jst say u would like to see it smooth or the thought of it turns you on smthn like that....Good luck!
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reader, Randya2 +, writes (29 September 2009):
Your wife is herself. If you can't except that without thinking she is gross... maybe it is time you move on with your life. Pubic hair is perfectly natural on a male or female. I cannot begin to understand why you would consider your wife gross because she shows signs of adulthood. It is her body, and shouldn't have to change it just because you find a woman old enough to have pubic hair gross!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): Get her a lady shaver or an eppilator which is also a shaver and plucker as a present and say you fancy a change, see if you can spice it up. Then when she does it shower her with compliments and tell her later on that you really prefer her that way and would she keep it up for you.
I would respond well if my husband did that. He dropped a hint that he hated it when I shaved (shaving rash) so he gave me money to get waxed every month and thats been going on for 7 years now.
Good luck
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (29 September 2009):
 Ok, you need to just tell her straight out to do it, because it would help alot with getting you turned on. And if she starts to have a hissy fit or something, tell her you even went online to ask the agony aunts what was the most sensitive way to approach the issue. You will also have to consider how short you actually want the pubic hair to be most of the time. Cause if its completely shaved off then after a couple days growth it's just very prickly, and could be uncomfortable during sex. So if its fully shaved she'd need to maintain it constantly and it might irritate and cut the sensitive area around the genitals to shave too much. If however, you could compromise for her to just trim it with scissors regulary so that it's just trim, but long enough to be beyond the prickly phases, that would probably be a lot more feasible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): my husband just told me that he doesn't want any hair there. it was very simple, i said o.k. and started shaving. it got into habbit very fast, i do it twice a week when I take shower. Don't hint, just tell her without saying it's a turn-off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): tell her the truth or you are stuck. without being too blatant just tell her something like 'the sex etc is lovely but you know the hair is a real turn-off you wouldnt mind removing it would you?'
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): Tell her upfront? Its a minor thing for her to fix. It would have been far more difficult if you told her get a smaller bum... If you have a close and secure relationship, this wont be a big deal. Maybe not tell her it looks nasty, but tell her you prefer it trimmed and that its a turn on when she's trimmed.
You can't expect her to keep it smooth 24/7, it's a tricky business + it's good for the area down there to have some hair. But shaving smooth a few times a month should be enough to keep her and you satisfied? Once a month? Hahah, negotiate that with her, Im sure she can manage to hear it.
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