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writes:i am married for nearly about 20 yrs. but i have never found my wife caring about me. now she is in love with someone else i guess. help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (10 November 2010):
"am married for nearly about 20 yrs. but i have never found my wife caring about me. now she is in love with someone else i guess. help me."
And your still there because......????
And after 20 years you think what is going to change????
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reader, cheekyfriday  +, writes (10 November 2010):
To get an answer you have to be patient with the keyboard and type it all out. It is going to take you a while, but you seem like you do not want to lose your wife.
In the mean time, do the same thing with a pen and paper and write to your wife, telling her how much she means to you? Does she mean anything to you? If she has never cared about you why are you staying with her?
Yes, you do not wish to be lonely, but you want your wife to care for you!
I suggest you go straight to counciling, as you are going to need professional help if you do not get the answers here.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Let me first ask you how you showed care for her? You have been married 20 years. I have never known anyone to be bonded to someone in holy matrimony for that long without any love involved. What were the circumstances of your marriage? Was she in this for the money or perhaps the lifestyle?
How have you shown love and care? Do you take her out often for dinner? Do you make dinner for her occasionally at least? Do you touch her in ways without sex in mind? I am not trying to accuse you of any wrongdoing, I am merely pushing forward an unbiased understanding of the situation.
You can try to show more devotion to her as her husband but I am afraid that you cannot force her not to feel something for someone else. Just be the best husband you can be and perhaps things will change. Good luck.
I hope that helps.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (10 November 2010):
i believe we need more details
aobut your marriage and about how sure you are about her affair
but if she doesnt love you and there are no children between you and her divorce her because there no waste of time such as living with someone who doesnt love you
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