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writes:Ive always have been interested in watching my wife sleep with a random guy. Shes never joked about anything like that so im unsure on how she would react.How do i go about bringing it up without upsetting her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2021): Our neighbor lady (Joan) and my wife (Jill) look like twins. She's divorced and sorta adventurous. There are sheds and shrubs to rear of both are backyards. 2 years ago just after sundown I'm in my shed and I hear sex sounds, loud bellies colliding and moaning. I look out the window, 2 feet away a younger guy is really letting Joan have it. In the dim light I swear it's my Jill. I'm a jealous guy to a fault, I don't like her dancing with another guy. I'm shocked, but the more I watch the more I enjoy it. I believe they had been drinking, it goes on for some time. Only when she stands do I see her boobs are different. I sorta get that watch wife have sex thing now. I'd never approve or ask her to. We have good friends who have been unfaithful and are happily married. To each his own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2021): If she's really eager to please you on that front, will you be suspicious? What if she already has somebody in-mind, will you agree to it?
What if she meets some well-endowed man who's a pro in the sack, has a great personality, and would keep her all to himself? What if they really hit it off, and decide to keep it going behind your back?
Maybe you'll open a whole new world for her. One that will eventually crowd you out of it. Careful for what you wish for, because you just might get it! The outcome you hope for may be nowhere as good or controlled as you wish it to be.
The question to consider is this. Can you deal with all the possible pitfalls and repercussions it could present, if she readily agrees? Keep in-mind, you will both remember the experience in your own way. You might even cause her serious emotional trauma, or she might just up and leave you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 October 2021):
 To be honest, I'd wager most women in a loving marriage or long-term relationship would feel insulted if their partner asked them to screw some random stranger to "entertain" their partner's fetish.
She is your wife, not some two-bit porn star actor. You are her husband NOT her lowlife pimp.
Roleplay. Ask her if she would like to play pretend. You can dress up as "not you" and she as "not her" - go to a club or bar and pick her up and see if that is fun.
My question to you is, can you express in words what it is you think you would find arousing with her screwing some random stranger?
The chance she might get an STD/STI? The chance that HE is better in bed? A chance he is bigger in the penis department? Or FOR you to feel like you are some pimp? Or is it a way for you to ALSO get a "cheat" card? Because you let her do it?
I bet you this fantasy of yours is MUCH better to keep inside your head than shared with your wife. A wife who is willing to sleep with other men is probably not feeling loved and doesn't love you.
In short, this is a surefire way to ruin your marriage and relationship with your wife.
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reader, Anon21  +, writes (27 October 2021):
OP do not even think about this it could destroy your marriage. Do some searching on this website and you will find that things like threesomes, swinging and your fantasies end in disaster for the marriage. Some things to consider:
- What happens if your wife likes the other guy and keeps on seeing him or other men behind your back.
- Once you open this door you may not be able to close it. Your wife may think if this is what you think of me she may want to rub your nose in it.
Marriage is meant to be mutually exclusive it excludes all other people from the intimate nature of your relationship. Marriage means you grow an intimate bond between each other. You help each other in the ups and downs of life etc. This sort of fantasy will destroy the bond between you and your wife if you try to enact it as.
There is a large gap between fantasy and reality, you may find that you do not like the outcome.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2021): 99% of women who get their guy suggest this stuff go off him big time. In many cases that is it, they realise he does not respect them or care about them and they totally lose interest in him. If they have somewhere to go, a job, money etc that is it - they are off, they cut their losses - and find a guy who believes that a relationship is about love and loyalty not pimping your wife out to a stranger. Has it not occurred to you that if she wanted to put it about she could easily get guys herself,without any help from you, and she would not have got into a monogamous relationship with you then? Also, if she wants to behave like a prostitute and service strangers she might as well charge the normal rates and get paid properly! She could get a disease off this other wanker. She could get beaten up. He could become a pest or she might even decide she likes him a lot more than she likes you and dump you. Guys who accept such invitations are not nice people, they are just after free sex. You are not that bright and you have not thought this through. Not sure which is worse for her, to be with a guy who thinks so little of her or to be with a guy who is so daft.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2021): If my husband ever suggested this he would be a ex.Take heed.
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