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writes: Hi! everyone seasons greetings! I just want to ask this question concerning the vice principle at my high school. He's really strict to everyone and even his co-workers despise him. But he said something really weird to me, he said 'I know you like me because I'm nice to you....I know you think I'm nice, you've seen my nice side' Now why would he say this? why did he choose to tell ME that I like him (when believe me, I don't) Also he winks at me when no ones looking and he makes sure because one time the other person looked in his direction during a wink and he instantly stopped so i was like a half wink, then when the person looked away he did another one. I told my mom and she says i should stay away from him (this was without mentioning the winking). So is what he's doing wrong and if so what do i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): hi me again, i finally got my mom to go into school after the festive break. Does whats happening constitute sexual harrasment? and could you please write a definition of why its so wrong so my mum can read it because she still needs a bit more convincing. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): It puts my mind at ease to hear you will go to a trusted, teacher, you feel safe with. Stay strong. Thank you for your nice words, dear and you have a wonderful and happy Christmas, as well. :) Take care xxoo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): thank you irish49 for all your advice. have a good festive season, you'll be in my prayers. xxx I will try and talk one of the teachers i get along with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): Hello again, dear. If your Mother has stated that nothing can be done, then she's wrong. There is no doubt in my mind that her own low self-worth may be her excuse for inaction, here. Your Mother needs to fight for you. A lot can be done if one shouts and complains loud enough. They just have to be heard. Go to your Father, if he's in your life, go to a grandparent,or go to an Aunt, an Uncle. There has to be someone! You need to feel that someone you trust, can make you feel safe and cherished and help you, with this perverted teacher, who's comin gon to you. You make darn sure, you tell him NO at his suggestions of after school activities, involving him. Stay away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): hi its me again, he keeps staring at me and asking me to help out with him after school aswell, its really starting to freak me out now. My mom said theres no point reporting him because as i won't be believed by anyone because hes a repectable guy and i live on a trailer park, is this true? please help i feel so uncomfortable been in school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): Your vice-principle teacher is very morally wrong to be flirting with you and I'll tell you why. Teachers, and others in position of authority, are commonly well-known, well-respected, trusted individuals in the community. This teacher is an adult in a position of trust and authority and there are boundary issues about crossing the edges of appropriate behavior and he is paying no heed to them. Teachers are supposed to guide, help, develop and re-channel the youth, they are educating. Not flirt and make sexual innuendo to their young students.I can only imagine how 'unsafe, scared and degraded' you must feel. Your school is a safe haven where you trust the adults in charge not to make the young students feel so demoralized. This is so wrong. Keep talking to your Mother and really impress how uncomfortable..all this makes you feel. You need to feel secure in your school and not dealing with winks and bad behaviour from some lecherous vice-principal. You deserve to be respected and I commend you so much, for being mature and knowing that his behaviour is very, very inappropriate. You need support from your parents. They need to go to the school and issue a complaint to have this stopped...now. Keep speaking up against this and if he's reprimanded about it from his superiors, he will stop. You are a brave girl and I respect what you are doing. Good luck and stay strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): tell another teacher or someone like a friend and just stay well away from him and dont look at him just maybe tell your mum everthing and she can complain or something
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (13 December 2006):
 Yeah, the same thing kinda happened to me too. Guys teachers will tell me that i'm a good looking kid and that everybody was just jealuos and stuff. My english teacher and other men teachers used to check me out while walking. My english teacher was nice to me and only me. I would get away with all kinds of things and people got mad at me because they also noticed that he favored me and I wasn't even a good student. I was getting bad grades in his class because I wasn't doing anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): Well thats kind of pervy, and very wrong. A vice principle should never talk to a student in that type of manner whether or not he means well. its wrong all together. and as for the winking, thats a bit creepy. u need to talk to ur mother and father, who would then talk to the principle. You can even talk to the student counseler about the situation to help you make the decision on what to do. or you can tell the vice principle yourself that he should stop winking your way because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Please act on the situation as soon as you can before it gets worse. i understand thats its going to be scary and difficult. But remember he may be acting this way towards other students and he needs to know it inappropriate and others may come forward.
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