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My partner puts little effort into pleasing me during sex

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Question - (23 August 2021) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 September 2021)
A female Trinidad and Tobago age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi all, I am having a problem with my significant other and our sex life, I rarely have an orgasm whenever we have sex, mainly because he puts little to no effort into getting me ready. I will perform oral sex on him etc he does too but not all the time, when he does, it sometimes feels rushed. I usually only reach orgasm in certain positions one of which is missionary. He will only get on top of me for a limited time and change into "doggy style"or me on top. Sometimes he asks if I had an orgasm and I would say no, I have told him before that I need to be stimulated more, I have seen no attempt to improve. I also told him what position works for me but he changes before I can get there. I know he loves me because he adores me tremendously, he always reminds me of how sexy I am. So what is it? I want to have sex with him but I get frustrated in the end cause I'm hardly ever satisfied, it's annoying and at this point I'm almost ready to get it elsewhere.

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A male reader, Diljeet India +, writes (23 September 2021):

Generally it is difficult to stay longer in missionary for men. in other position like cowgirl and doggy (generally in standing) man can stay a bit longer. I guess he feels that he might ejaculate early in missionary, that's why he changes that position quickly. talk to him that is the only solution i guess.

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A female reader, Tinacandida United Kingdom +, writes (27 August 2021):

Tinacandida agony auntDont please him first. Make him wait until you are ready.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2021):

He sounds like a selfish lover! If you want to stay with him, one thing you could try is masturbating yourself before sex with him. It might make it easier for you have an orgasm with him, and he also might find it exciting.

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