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writes:I have been going out with this guy for over 2yrs and recently got engaged. I love him more than anything but the problem is my parents dont like him even though they've never met. He is 44 and i am 20 and this is probably the reason why they dont like him. How can I get them to come around and meet him. My dad is adamant that if he ever meets my fiance he's gonna kill him. Please help
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Your parents will have difficulty accepting your b/f who may be as old as them.
You cannot help it .
Your parents are not open minded and belong to the older generations.
The only way they can accept him is when you get married .
Then they have no choice or lose a daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): I recently lost a 3.5 years old relationship because of something like that. They surely want the best for you, but they cannot tell what it is. If you're sure about how you feel then don't let them interfere.Try to arrange a meeting, tell him what he should not talk about, but don't make him try to win them inmediately (like int the 'Meet the parents' movie). A great 1st meeting achievement would be to finish the night without anyone hurt.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Oh yeah and I should add, arrange a meeting on neutral territory, if they agree. Go for a coffee, go out for lunch, a small cafe or something. Everyone will be more relaxed and it will be easier for your fiance rather than going to your parents house, on their territory.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (9 March 2008):
It's a bit unfair of your parents to decidee they dislike your fiance before they even met. Is it something to do with the age gap? You should ask them. Try to arrange a meeting, it might not be all smooth sailing, but it sounds like you'll need to take baby steps. If they won't meet, then you'll just have to accept the fact that your parents might never meet their son-in-law.
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